Am I harsh on him?
By maean_19
@maean_19 (4655)
Philippines
November 21, 2007 1:00am CST
I have this ex boyfriend wants to visit me home. Unfortunately, I told him that he can't come right now because I am busy tired with work and self reviewing for the upcoming Bar Exam next year.
He thought I was lying and presumed that I don't want him visit me because am mad at him. Though, the truth is am really reviewing and tired from work plus I don't want him to stay at home and sleep over to my place like he does last time (August). He is a happy go lucky guy, had no work, and with a daughter from his girlfriend.
Moreover, the last time he stayed from my place, I was pissed off when he had some time with other people instead of spending time with his daughter. Am so disappointed on him treating his supposed family. Despite finding job, he prefers to do other things and said he is tired looking for one when in fact he only had 3 or so interviews from call center jobs.
His brother is offering him a job but declined. He is 26 now and still jobless.
Am I being fair when I have to cease him coming over at home doing nothing? Or am I too harsh on him?
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3 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I don't think you are being too harsh. I think you are doing what is best for you and being strong. There is nothing wrong with that. He has the problem not you. It sounds like he is lazy and doesn't want to do anything for himself or for his child. That is a shame and your probably better off without him anyhow. If he gets mad so be it. At least you don't have to worry about him calling you wondering if he can stay at your house. Concentrate on what is necessary in your life and good luck on your exams! Happy Holiday!
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
I agree with your decision of not seeing him again. The way he manages his life, there is no bright future for both of you. He should find a stable job first, give enough time to his daugther and perhaps financial support, before he start a life with you again.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
Thank you for the response.
I just want to correct the statement that He is not actually trying to get back on me. He was just asking a favor to stay on my place, which at first accommodated him. However, I hate it when he has to think and take things for granted and I find it he is abusive of my kindness. The fact that I have a boyfriend, he actually have his older brother around and his new family, though unmarried.
I don't want him to court me either or the idea of asking me to get back on him. He is one of my past and I won't choose him in change of my current bf. He is actually a super and stupid spoiled brat which I cannot tolerate.
I sympathize the girl he had a daughter with because she ended up to a guy like that. Although, it is upto her if she will marry him despite having a daughter with him.
To end, HE IS PATHETIC. Am i right?
