What is right?

Hi vsraovsr. In this case I confuse with the words of "well educated" and "love each other". And why this particular attitude happened in your friend's marriage life. OK let us focus on the nature of the subject. As she consult you and need your idea for her decision making, I think you better tell her that she has to take a very persuasive step to equalize his husband control attitude and her voice of needs. I know when one's feeling disturbed mean there is no longer satisfaction. The complicated part in here is because she is having desperation with her authoritative husband, where husband is the king of words in her family life. And she must have a lovely discussion to resolve her failure. Don't worry any husband like very much if their wife know their weakness. HAPPY DAPPY.

This is a common thing that happens where men need the upper hand all the time. Though I know quite a few couples who do not dominate each other, I must say that is a minority. In your friend's case, it will be easier to compromise and avoid an argument as a couple. But when kids are involved, then an educated woman has another problem to face. Should she compromise and allow her kids to think that it is the norm for men to dominate their wives or does she argue and create a scene in front of the kids to show that she is strong? Over a period of time, her uneasiness will take over the love that she has for her husband and matters will become worse. What she can do right now is maybe find the right time and atmosphere to talk to her husband about how his comments and actions affect her negatively. If that doesn't really help, maybe she can take the help of another adult she can trust and who her husband listens to. Or even take professional help. Waiting too long might make matters worse (especially when it starts happening often). It is better to nip it in the bud!

Hi My idea is males generally dominate female and this is a common at most of the homes. They feel secure and to maintain a respect for them they do this. Even a very understanding husband will dominate a wife for many reasons and this depends on the situation. The wife can talk to the husband and express her feelings in a nice manner without aruging will differently give solution.

she needs to sit down with him and discuss her feelings,as it will only fester and become a major issue.he probably is unaware that he is doing it and needs to be told.you need to be able to communicate your feelings, and if they really love each other ,they will work it out

well i think the best way is that your friend should talk to her hubby.might he will not be aware of the feelings she is going through.its better to talk directly and get a reason for doing so rather just getting angry within you.in a marriage both the partners have to compromise a bit.its good she is doing.you are also telling that they love each other a lot.so when love is there then he will definately understand her.