Is this his responsibilty?

I wouldn't say you were over reacting. I could see how it may make you uncomfortable.I suggest just keeping an eye on things for now. When my siblings and I were younger, my grandfather used to refer to us as lil monsters. Even though we were well behaved children. we reached a certain age and he stopped. Now that he is a great grandfather he pulled the same act with my daughter. And when she was 2 she looked him staight in the eye and said " I am not a monster I am ers' That put a stop to it.Some male family members do not know how to really express affection properly. When she is older he may stop. Until then try finding a nickname for her you find appropriate. Then in a jokey way say she not a lover she's a sweet pea or what ever, maybe that will stick.

I agree, I don't think it is appropiate and it would be your S/O job to tell his Father. But since he isn't, you could still maybe in passing mention to your Father-in-law how you would prefer that he come up with a different nick name for your daughter, that it just makes you uncomfortable. If that doesn't work, what about your Mother-in-law? Are you close to her? Maybe she will understand and talk to her husband about it..

You are part of the family now and should say something if you are not happy. I dont see anything wrong with it. Hes a grandpa and means no harm. My grandpa called me sweetheart and the other called me good looking. Theres no harm in it. Hes just expresing love for your daughter. Be happy he is involved in her life.

I feel he same as you...if it's MY family I'll hanle it but if it's HIS family he should handle it. He rarely does but there's no way I can do it either since we don't get along well. It a hard thing to deal with though and if you really feel strongly about his nickname and your s/o won't sa anything then I guess you'll have to. I know it's easier said than done though. Last Thursday my S/o's dad decide our boys needed haircuts (former military, can't stand to see their hair over their ears). I did not want it cut because the 4 1/2 year old's hair was still messed up from the last time he cut it and I wanted it to grow out more so it could be fixed, the 2 1/2 has curls which I like to show off. I've told my s/o that I do not want his dad cutting the boys hair so short but he won't say anything and I know if I do his dad will probably cut it even shorter just for spite. Last Thursday was no different. I want to tell him to stop but I can't.

First af all you are right about it beeng a bit inappropiate (when I say bit I ment over the top extreme). Try again talk to him explain why you feel that way and tell him to talk to his father about it. Ask him how he feel about his father calling his daughter that. Tell him that it would be better coming from him then you. Tell him that if he does not talk to him you will. And yes it would be better if he does but if he doent then you do. Who cares wht he things of you he obviusly does not care what you think of him when he calles your daugter with inapproriate names.

I agree that the nickname is inappropriate, and I would be uncomfortable with it, too. But I don't think that it is necessarily your significant other's responsibility to talk to his father about it. She is your daughter, too, and if you want him to stop, you should tell him how you feel. It may not be comfortable, and he may not like it, but so what. When it comes to your daughter you have to do what is best, and that is not always going to be easy. Better to deal with it now than wait until it becomes a real problem.

I too find that inappropriate. I would probably ask my partner to talk to his parents as well unless he didn't then I would just go ahead because next think you knmow your daughter will be calling everyone that too.

I think in this matter you are a little bit over reacting. Above all he is the grandfather and he has a very special feeling towards his grand daughter... Not only verbally but also imotionally! Your daughter is the special person for him and all those specialities are totally integrated by more than simply parental love. So I think a little extra expression as 'Lover' should not put you in any odd feeling! Take it as a very light thing and I am sure you will find that everything is right in its own way in due time. Let the grandfather have his fun as well as care for his grand child! Thanks for this specific discussion.

I think if it bothers you that bad, you should be the one to say something. It must not bother your husband that bad to say anything. You might be better off speaking up yourself. Although I don't feel it's inappropiate, it is your choice. I know my sister will say stuff like "Come on my little lover, lets get our shoes on." or something down that line to my kids & it doesn't bother me. But that is me. Some people see things differently. So all you can do is sit the father down with your husband with you and explain that this name bothers you and if maybe he can pick another "nickname" for the baby... Good luck!

Dayzz, I think the right approach is, that your father-in-law needs to know,that you are uncomfortable with him calling her "lover", and that it is in fact inappropriate for him to be calling her that! Now, either your s/o needs to let him know, or you have to do it! I'm sitting here trying to figure out, why he would even start calling her that in the first place!

My situation is a little different than yours,I feel more comfortable telling my in laws to not call my son something than I do my own parents - it weird. But I do believe that if you're not comfortable with it, and your partner knows about it, he should talk to his dad and ask him not to call her that anymore. And if at all necessary, and your partner doesn't say anything, come off as snotty if you have to, but let them know that you don't appreciate him calling her that. She's YOUR daughter and they should respect your wishes. And if he gets mad, too bad, you can just blame it on your partner LOL

You say 2 things in the same sentence." I'm pretty sure he doesn't mean anything by this," and," but I think its very inappropriate." If he doesn't mean anything by it, how can it be very inappropiate? I think your worrying over nothing!Relax and let it go. Your pissing in the Wind!

I find it different. I never thought about it. Maybe it's just a nickname for your daughter and that's it. I don't think your father in law means any harm by it. I guess the best thing is talk it over with him directly but that's it. I think you should handle it the way you feel is best.

i agree with you and i can understand you ,you can talk to him about this .

You're the parent of your child. It is both your husband and your responsibility. I believe that when a seed of problem is planted in a soil, it will grow in time. You would wait for that moment. Will you now?

I think this is very inappropiate and if you don't let him know how you feel it will blow up one day, you might already be in a bad mood or something and if he calls her this name you may really go off on him so you should say something now so it can be said in a calm,cool voice instead of a mean,nasty voice.