Does your first love deserve another chance?
By Redzilla
@Redzilla (21)
United States
November 21, 2007 10:44pm CST
I remember my first love like it was yesterday.....I was 13 and he was 16. We broke up over silly things (teenagers I guess). Up till now we run into each other at least once a year, but have never spoken to each other in almost 12 years. I always knew what was going on in his life cause when he saw my family he would talk to them. Well about a year ago he told my mom he was getting married and not to worry we didn't know her and so on. Well I spotted him on myspace the other day and it said he was single and so on. I took a major step and messaged him. Boy was I shocked a week later when he replied. He said things hadn't worked out with them and blah blah blah. We talked for about 4 hours. He said he would like to talk again but doesn't get on much, I never offered my # cause if he wanted it he would ask right? Well not even 3 days later he was on again looking for me but remember he only had been gettin on once a week and sometimes every two weeks. He was there to give me his # but I wasn't on.....I let it go for 2 days before I called him adn asked him to get on the computer cause I didn't know how well it would go talking to him on the phone. Well he now wants to see me, my stomache is in knots and I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my first love again. I need advice so bad. Please someone help.
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6 responses
@mabelk (208)
• Germany
23 Nov 07
Will there be a problem with your ex if someone calls you? If you only live together just to share the rent, your private matters should not concern your ex. Does your teenage first love mind that you're still living with your ex? Is it an issue for him? He's already asking for a chance, why not give it a try? Both of you are hesitant because you're both not sure if things will work between the two of you. But how will you know unless you try? If you know him very well and if he's a nice person then you shouldn't worry.
@Redzilla (21)
• United States
26 Nov 07
My first flame does want me out of here, but knows that it is hard. He doesn't call because he doesn't want to start anything. So we just chat online and take things from there. The guy I room with was abusive when we dated, thats why we called it off and he went on the road with work.
@Redzilla (21)
• United States
23 Nov 07
Well when we dicussed why we broke up neither of us knew why so we just blamed it on beong teenagers. However when I spoke him last and I had to go he said he wanted a date with me. I told him soon and his reply was "yes!" well i had logged off after that comment but when I got back on I had the message of "I get another chance". I haven't spoken to him since though...I tried to call him on thanksgiving but his cell phone was turned off by him, guess he didn't want calls but I did just leave mesage of happy thanksgiving and still haven't heard from him. I guess I should explain why I do all the calling. I was in a relationship and we have broken up but we still live together because of the lease, he is hardly ever here cause he is a truck driver so I don't see the harm. This guy doesn't call because he doesn't want to start anything in case my ex is here. I know I am not in a good position here but i can't afford rent on my own and its nice havign a roommate that is here only 4 days a month and the rest of the time I have the place to just me and my kids. Unless I get a raise, find a new roommate , or get my tax return I can't change my current sitsuation though.
@mabelk (208)
• Germany
22 Nov 07
Hi Redzilla, in my opinion you should give it a shot. I mean don't fall too fast but just hang out together and see if there's still the chemistry between you and him. There must be a reason why he didn't pursue his marriage. You said it has been a while since the break up with his ex. 'Wish u the best and I'll keep my fingers crossed.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
22 Nov 07
whoa!
hi redzilla! that's a predicament, but i find exciting. do i get it right that you still like him?
well, hihihi who knows what will happen. but please find out if their break up with his ex was only recently. he may just be on the rebound and maybe vulnerable. and you may find yourself just filling in the shoes that were left by his previous marriage.
so take precaution. however, no sense in being scared. be friends with him, like you always had. :-)
take care dear! hope this turns out well for the two of you.:-) God bless!
@Redzilla (21)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I am very crazy about him, they broke up soon after my mom seen him, they never went through with it and she is already married to someone else...so looks all good. Thing is I don't think he wants to be friends and neither do I but is it the right thing....so confusing
@vikceo (1301)
• India
22 Nov 07
well if the ,ove is sincere we should give the other oppurtinity but if you know that he is getting maried then be careful try to make out him to say something or commit to you then only you take some initiative. think and then trust as it hurts when your love ditches you.so be careful as it ll be gonna long last
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
22 Nov 07
I am facing the same situation here..!!
We borke about 7-8 months before.
He was my school mate for three years.!!
But now he lives in a different country so as a disctance relationship the only thing we had is internet and phone to be together..!!
Things where fine between us..!
But after two months of our reltionship he started showing no care for me, like he never came online so we could chat little, he never called me ..I tried his number but the number was not correct...!!
It was he talked to me in about once or twice a month...now is that a kind of thing happens when people are in love..??
No and I don't find it a little teen thing..coz when you show no interest and doesn't care to talk then I think its end of reltionship..!! I even tried to talk to him but he never came. Always kept me waiting...and waiting like hell!!
So I broke up with him.
And now after so much of months he comes back and says that there was some stupid reason why he felt nervous to talk to me...!!
and says "can we get back together again?"..!!!
Now after all that teary sleepless nights I spend because of him in fogetting him away..!!
Now forgetting some one you love is very hard to do.
But now as I am going on with my life he comes up again I still want to love him but something is just stopping me that I will fall in that same pit again!!
SO I guess I gonna say "NO" to him now..!!
Its now end of every thing..!!
I can take it any more.
:)
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
25 Nov 07
But now What I feel is .....first love just looks good in names..!!
At the end of the day what all matters is ....YOUR feelings..!!
Its not neccessary that the persone standing in front of you is your first love so he is devine match for you..!!
What matters is what do you feel about him NOW..??
DO YOU want to get back to him again?
The fact that he is your first love should not be the basis for choosing him again!!!
Its the "person" that matters..!!
:)
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Oh my that is so outrageous!!! I am excited and its not even me!! omg take the chance:) hang out with him and see what hes like these days cause u know hes alot older now and you guys arent tennagers anymore. mabey somthing good will come out of it..
i remember my first love. and i still love him...i was 13 he was 17. the bad boy of the town, expelled from school,did his things not going into detail. i was young and impressionalbe...anyways if today he came to me and said lets talk again. i would be all for it. but only would i let it go any farther if he had made a life for himself,and wasnt the same as he was when i knew him..me we havnt talked in 7 years...
man its exciting!!!
goodluck hun! keep us updated:D
