how it feels to be abandoned with your own family?
By paulit03
@paulit03 (93)
Philippines
November 23, 2007 6:23am CST
i have this situation when i was a little boy. we were (brother and sister)abandoned by our family outside of the gate of my grandma's house. and it feels so pity full for us. i have also a hard time to tell my friends about my family whenever they will ask me where are they. and i also have the hard time if they tease me about my family. "pero sinasakay ko na lng jokes nila" for me not to got hurt.at first i really hated them for what they have done but now i was thankful for them although they have left us. why? it is because my situation right now. my mother have explained everything to me why she left me.hmmm although im very very happy about my family right now im still jealous to other people. because of their true family that have them take good care of. but i'm really thankful for them though. and i love my family right now.
4 responses
@riveream (111)
• Philippines
1 Dec 07
just like ma'am ebony- i am also shocked. you seem to be a happy-go-lucky guy. if I didn't notice that you are an intelligent person, i wouldn't have thought that you were abandoned by your parents. it is good that your grandma, aunt and uncle took care of you and your sister. But, I have a different case with you. Unlike you, I also feel abandoned usually. My parents usually quarrel especially when I was in elementary and high school. You know, I think at that time that they should divorce because I am sick of their bickering. Although I love them, it is hard to be a peacemaker to both of them. If I talk to my dad to make peace with my mom, my mom will get back at me and vice versa. It is really hard to live in a world where your parents are always quarelling. I cannot study. I also wish at that time that I wasn't born. If not, maybe I will have a loving and peaceful family. Now....I am just moving on still....
@paulit03 (93)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
i do things happily.. hehheh i dont want to think things that will disappoint me. that's why you think that im a happy go lucky person.. i was just trying to be strong. accepting things that has over gone the past.. i do miss my parents but im really happy right now.. hehe hmmm because of the people thats surrounds me. im a happy person because all of you are there and make me happy thanks very much take care.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
24 Nov 07
well i m working in an NGO and have seen many cases who are being abandoned by their parents. however their reason are they all are delayed in their development by certain level so parents either not able to accept them or not able to take care of them so they abandoned them.but for children it has very ill effects.as child never able to feel free in front of us and not able to get proper care in residential schools. however every budy is not as lucky you are atleast to get the support of the other family members. it is good thet your parents have left you with relatives with a genuine reason but few children find it too hard to absorb the situation and get acquinted with it
@paulit03 (93)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
i think the reason why parents left or abandoned their children like me is having a problem in money. or maybe they are not ready yet to have them. but it confused me. i they are not ready yet then why would they produced a human being? am i right? i do have a better relationship with my guardians it is because my parents left me when i was still at age 3 or 4. that's why i feel that my guardians are now my real family.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
That's sad indeed. But the whole experience made you a tougher person and should inspire you to make sure that it never happens to your own children.
Makes me appreciate my own family even more.
@paulit03 (93)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
hehe good thing to hear that from you. and you should be thankful to your family of having them taking good care of you the best way that they want to be. it made me tougher and weaker. hehe coz sometimes i do want to feel the love of a true parents. its not that im not contented but there is just a feeling that i am looking on how to be love by your tru parents.. coz even in a single day i haven't feel that with them.
@bong_domingo (878)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
huh??? i'm sorry i never thought this is the joker writing.. Paulo? i'm sorry but i was just sudden when i read your post... so you have seen your mom lately?
for whatever it is, i think your aunts did a good job of raising you up.... i think we can never really regret for being abandoned for we can always choose our life's path :-) take care Ma.
@paulit03 (93)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
joker writing? hehe yeah i have already seen my mom. but i haven't seen my dad when i have the consciousness understanding what life really is. hehee yeah i'm really greateful with my aunts, uncles and my grandma for giving their best care to us. i really love my life right now. so never regret on things we do. live life and love it. for life is fun and appreciating the learnings that taught us.
