please tell me how you deal with toddler tantrums

Not much experience with kids but my intuition would be to do the same but out do him all the best urban

this is tough. reading the previous response, i'd go with the ignoring. of course you can't ignore him when he puts himself in danger but you can ignore the behavior. just quietly pick him up and put him back down where he is safe then ignore the behavior until it subsides then continue on your way as if nothing happened. i don't believe in the form of discipline that is used to humiliate or hurt a child....i believe discipline should TEACH a child appropriate behavior and the ignoring method does this just as well, or in my opinion better than, spanking, or humiliation of some sort. if my toddler throws a fit in the store we leave the store immediately, we don't put anything away and we don't discuss it...we leave, child usually flailing in my arms. i put the child in his car seat and home we go....with nothing. he usually quiets while on the ride home and as he gets older he'll learn that his fits have just cut his outings short, or stopped him from getting something at the store, or prevented him from some other looked forward to activity...because he ends up right back at home with nothing accomplished. it worked withmy two older children and they are now well adjusted adults...i expect the same will happen with the now toddler.

Ignore it! Giving in, or acknowledging the temper tantrum just lets them know that you're paying attention and they feel the longer they engage in the temper tantrum, the easier it will be for them to get what they want. If he has a tendency to throw tantrums in a store, see if you can stop taking him with you when you do the shopping. This way he won't throw tantrums over items that you won't allow him to have. At home, it's easier to ignore him and let him realize that you're not going to acknowledge his outbursts or give in.

My first solution would be to let him continue the tantrum, and pay him no attention. Little kids throw tantrums because they feel they are not getting attention. If he sees that this doesn't work, then he should stop. I know that you are worried that he will hurt himself, so I would watch to make sure he wouldn't hurt himself seriously, but I wouldn't give him the reaction he was looking for. If this doesn't work, and I know a lot of parents don't like this, but a sound spanking could do wonders for the boy, if that is what you believe in. I understand that he is a one year old, so no need for belts and the like. Just a couple of pops on the hand or the bottom should do. One last thing that I have only heard of once, but it worked, is to fall out and have a tantrum with him. My friend did this to her daughter and it straightened her right up. Her daughter wanted a particular cereal in the store, and she told her she couldn't have it. Her daughter proceeded to fall out in the middle of the aisle. Right then and there her mother fell out in the middle of the aisle with her too, kicking and screaming that she wasn't going to have the cereal. The daughter was very scared and stopped her tantrum immediately, and never tried that again.

I am a mom too and I understand your situation. Your kid is in the age of "terrible twos". They always say and do the opposite. Kids usually have tantrums if they do not get what they want or are frustrated. You will have this problem till they are about 4 or 5. I agree that you have to ignore him initially while he is having tantrums, but be sure he does not hurt himself. If he has calmed down then you have to talk to him and explain why you cannot give in to his demands or give an alternative and reassure him that he is loved and cared for. Try to anticipate his needs and treat him like a friend. Don't reprimand and give punishment for wrongdoings but give praises for the good things he has done.Good luck.

...There are a few things you can do. Ignore him, reprimand him or reward him. ...The last choice will create a monster. Giving into his behavior is the worst thing you can do. It puts him in control. ...Ignoring him may take some courage because it is far easier to react to the unpleasantness. He wants you to react. If you ignor him, he will learn this method of behavior does not work and he will stop doing it. ...Reprimand will work faster. Butt spanking or taking away a favorite toy will quickly make him stop. The reprimand needs to be humiliating and cost him (pain or loss). ...Teach him his bad behavior has unpleasant consequences. Reward good behavior with praise and do this publicly. It will build his self esteem. ...Children need L.S.D. Love, security and discipline. they do not attain security without discipline. ...Happy parenting. Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della