Waiting for marriage to sleep together?

Anything done between consenting adults is fine with me. I get annoyed when people lecture me about not waiting until marriage based on their religious beliefs, which aren't mine... or without knowledge of my personal history, and what caused me to behave in ways I did. I think ultimately it's up to the individual to make those sorts of decisions. If someone feels ready, and wants to take that step, it shouldn't matter what anyone other than themselves and their partner thinks.

they should both know some things about contraception and broken hearts first too though

There is so much to that question..It is of my belief that there is much beauty in waiting till you are married. I know that society has come to accept sleeping together even though you may never commit to each other.. Once the match is lit and can't be relit.. I think despite the common opinion..there is beauty in waiting.

I feel that it is up the couple to do what they want to do they are both old enought to know what they want

If both of you are of age, why not sleep together unless your religious belief says that you must be married.As long as you both are ready, you should do it.

i think its true.because before or after marriage its just the 2 who are going to be involved.So it really does not matter when it is being done.what matters is that one needs to be in love with each other,and they need to take precautions.since in many community getting pregnant before marriage is considered to be sin.so better ot take the precautions.

I know everyone has their own beliefs, some because of their religious background, and in no way can anyone judge each other's choices. However, I choose to wait until I am married to sleep with anyone. Even if I weren't a Christian, this option appeals to me because with abstinence I know I won't be getting anything from my partner. I won't be getting pregnant, because any birth control can fail. But that is my personal choice. I don't think anyone can be labeled bad by whatever they decide.

I feel that if you love someone and you truely know that is who you are going to be with for the rest of your life, then that is okay. Now people may say, wait til you are married. That is the christian thing to do. Well, ask god in your heart to marry the two of you. You do not need a piece of paper to know that you are in love. Ya know what I mean. Me and my husband have been together for almost 6 years. When I knew that I was in love with him and that it was what I wanted for the rest of my life, I prayed and asked God to marry us in his eyes. And I believe he did just that. =). One day we may go and sign some papers, for the will rights and other benifits of being married, but for now we are just fine.

In today's not-so-conservative world, I suppose it's okay to do it when they are responsible enough to handle the consequences, putting aside if you value the sanctity of marriage. But if either one of them values marriage, then the other has to wait... despite his physical readiness and out of respect and love to the person.

I think it's okay as long as you are both mentally and physically ready. Sleeping together takes a maturity that a lot of people don't have when they are young and in a realationship. I want it to be the real thing, you know? I didn't wait and my husband and I were each others firsts. It was special, but we were both ready.

i think it depends on the emotional state of the couple, especially the girl. Its ok as long as they really love each other and ready for further responsibility in case unwanted pregnancy happens.

uhmm for me its a sign of respect but nowadays.. they dont really have that kind of thing to follow as the youngers are so wild i dont know really i muself is so confused

hmmmm.... isn't it worth waiting? this doesn't mean to judge anybody who did sleep together before marriage.... but i'm just wondering if it isn't worth waiting? to be excited about it.... to wonder about it ....

I think it depends on what culture you are in. In some Asian countries where people tend to be conservative, it is just not right for them to do so and people would regard it as immoral. But nowadays people tend to open up on such things. So if the 2 of you are ready for it, it's alright to do so.

I used to believe that, but now that I have returned to church and live by the bible, I say no. It is not ok. The union is not recognized or blessed in the eyes of God. It's called fornication. If people want to wait for marriage, there is nothing wrong with that at all. It will just make the commitment stronger between the two.

I think, as long as you're ready, and not being pressured into anything, then it's completely your choice. I know I certainly regretted losing my virginity too young, and to someone I didn't even really LIKE, much less love, because, well, not to make excuses for my own immaturity, but 'everyone else was doing it'.

I personally think,to each their own.. but me of course i didnt wait obviously. i have a 2 year old daughter and im single.lol But if i had not of had my daughter mabey i would say if i could turn back time i would but i wouldnt wanna do that because then i wouldnt have my daughter.. but i think now that it is best to wait..not only best cut special for your husband because you would have saved yourself for him..would of made it all the more special.

You don't even have to be in love to sleep together. If you are both consenting adults, then go for it. Far be it for anyone else here to tell you how to live your life. Adults can pretty much do as they want with their bodies and if they want to sleep with every man on the planet, have a good time!

i luv just to sleep with my girlfriend........ jus sleep...