Do you believe in making a bad person good by
By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
8 responses
@MellyMell (43)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I used to believe this and pretty much lived by it until about 12 years ago when I realized how much resentment and anomocity this stirred up within me. I felt taken for granted used and then thrown away. It seems to work (usually, I've had shocking reactions as well) with total strangers you know you'll never see or recognize again but to people you know it always seems to back fire and you turn into a door mat. A VERY ANGRY DOORMAT. I tryed again against every fiber in my being and again I'm watching myself turn into someone I very much dislike, I'm turning into them! I find into to be a dominate trait...Mean, angry, grouchy, selfish, etc. people, and to turn into a breeding ground with a domino effect. Now I feel guilty and like a failure. So I have to say I don't.
@MellyMell (43)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I agree with you there. I just get confused with what we think we are put around these individuals for, as in we must have been put in their path for some reason and despite prayer and your blood heart sweat and tears the bad prevails and is very contagious! It's so hard not to ask why me Lord, without being resentful or angry at our Father for putting such trials ahead of us, I feel this because I was on a great path and then Whamo! Whamo! Whamo! Almost as if I was set up for failure or worse a feeling of rejection from our Creator Himself.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
Well, I believe it is possible to happen. If you continue being good to him or to her, then there is a strong possiility that he will be good at least to you and with some other people. But changes in his or her attitude will only happen in his own will.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Nov 07
I used to...but I've seen that it doesn't work all the time. Some people are just plain bad...period and they will only take advantage of the fact that you are trying to be nice to them. But I must point out that all people are not like that. I basically feel all people are good unless proved otherwise. I've had my share of bad experiences because of that....but that's how I am. I'm a little careful now...but my belief still remains the same.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 Nov 07
I guess, in most cases, yes.
The munnabhai effect surely works. You can start off using the phrase "you are beautiful' and see how magical it gets! A little kind, nice word and a empathic smile work wonders. I have seen this myself.
However, do not go overboard, that might put you in problem. And there wouldn't be a mimpi everywhere to save you from the mess. lol..
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
24 Nov 07
I do not believe that this technique is even possible. First of all, there is no one who is constantly good. Second of all, that person has to want to be a good person. Other wise you are wasting what little time you have on this earth.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
24 Nov 07
Dear friend, in regards to this subject I'm not sure because I already tried this approach with someone and she became even worse than before. Some people just refuse to do the right thing.
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 07
Hi & Hello my friend, Balasri.
I always do believe in making a bad person good by being constantly good to him/her. And not just believe but in a very positive thinking manner. Even though it is an uneasily done in practical, unless him/her refuse to uphold his/her good attitude to the natural extend in and for their life.
Happy Postings and Earnings, my friend Balasri.
HAPPY DAPPY.
