Should I be pissed at my "online" friend?!?!?!
By Saskmommy
@Saskmommy (55)
Canada
November 24, 2007 1:19am CST
I have been talking to a woman for a bout 2 years now online thru msn. We met thru a mutual friend. I have never met this person, but we have become rather close, thru our daily discussions about life, family, kids, etc... After a few months, I built enough trust in her, and started confiding in her as though we had been friends for years. I told her something very personal that was going on with my family, and she decided to come on Mylot and make a discussion out of what I had confided in her. I was very angry with her and quite frankly, I am VERY hurt... It has been a few months now, and not only am I upset, so is my hubby. He doesn't want me even talking to this person... What should I do?? Should I forgive and forget? Help!!
4 people like this
9 responses
@ptotheb (229)
• New Zealand
24 Nov 07
As long as she did not mention your name I don't think you should be mad about her, but if she let down your privacy you should just try to ignore her and never get into serious conversations with her.
Remember the golden rule, don't ever give away personal information to people online who you haven't met or don't trust. It'll only be a matter of time until he/she rips you off.
3 people like this
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
I agree that as long as your name was not mentioned then no one will know the discussion was about you. But of course, if you really feel offended and betrayed then there's no more reason for you to continue your friendship with this woman.
2 people like this
@moriakaice (109)
• Poland
24 Nov 07
Yup, I agree. If there was no name, no clear track that she was refering to you, it's not a real problem. It's the other way round - it may even bring some good, as someone may know the answer, and since she, not you, posted that, nobody would link it to you...
But I also agree that you might be mad - but it's always better to forgive and forget!
2 people like this
@bing_r77 (237)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
ignore her and do not talk to here anymore. refrain from reading the discussions she started here in Mylot that pertains to you..remove her from your msn and you may even report her in mylot for abuse if you want. she has no rigth to tell to the public what you have confided in here. what you talk about is just between the two of you..
2 people like this
@summer218 (197)
• United States
24 Nov 07
I think you're being a bit extreme. In this case, you've built up a friendship and have admittedly confided in her. I think, this is something that sounds like a misunderstanding. You should take this as a lesson not to be so open with anyone online. There are many great people on mylot and all over the internet but to share things that are personal are better left to people you know in the real world. Cyber world is a tricky place and must be treated with caution. This friendship can be repaired just handled differently. :)
2 people like this
@bing_r77 (237)
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
yeah, i guess you are rigth summer. our life in the real world and in this cyberworld are very very different. its best to keep our personal life personal and not share it online specialy for public display. and tell our personal life only to poeple whom we trust so much. :)
@elshaddai123 (3981)
• Kottayam, India
25 Nov 07
Keep your secrets to yourself.Take advise from your close friends, who will not violate your privacy.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
24 Nov 07
Online friends are the same as friends that you see in your daily life. So if this is something you would get mad at a friend you see frequently in person than I'd say it's okay for you to be mad for the same way.
People are people so whether online or in person you should treat them the same.
1 person likes this
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
24 Nov 07
I would be mad too. Just in real life some people you can't trust either. It would be the same thing as one of your real life friends talking about you to other people. So in that situation what your you do? Did you tell her that what she did was not cool? If it were me I would not trust her to tell her anything personal. She already let some cats out of that bag. If you do continue to speak to her you know the next time that you can't share anything personal.
2 people like this
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
Umm for me i see that as a small problem.. well next time i guess be careful with what you are trying to say to people coz we don really know hem unless we stay in one roof..
Just forget about and move on with it.. dont stress yourself too much on that there are more better things than thinking about it.. Just be careful next time.. Its alright to open up to someone you really know than from a stranger..specially if you havent met yet..Cheer Up
2 people like this
@bishu_sinha (1457)
• India
25 Nov 07
This is very critical.
Ask yourself and do accordingly.
Pls. do't forget any friend.
@jenseyedea (579)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I guess I would ask you if you missed her? How important is your friendship to her? Have you talked to her about how upset you are that she posted something that confided in her about? Maybe she didn't realize that you wanted it kept between you and her only. I mean if your on my lot and she is on my lot, I would assume she would know that you would see the discussions she posts, right? So why would anyone who is your friend do that knowing you would read it. So I guess if you havent talked to her, you should and find out what she was thinking. That may put your mnd at ease. I know how much it hurts when the people we care about sometimes dont think about our feelings...and we are left trying to figure out what we should do. But it never hurts to go to the person and see what happens. I think you will feel better when you do..and then you will know what you need to do. Good luck. :)
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
25 Nov 07
just ignore this person and get her out of your life immediately.You may be careful about your sharing the personal matters in future.You move on with your life and enjoy it fully.
