I wanna go for holidays to meet my girlfriend but how....

Hello Dear Boy!You are in ages when you have to do something in your life and for the first time explain to your parents what you need and wish.To be happy you have to be free to decide what you want to do and when!Your parents are there to help you ,and they have to share your happiness!!The most important thing in our lives is love and freedom!!Please be a strong person,tell your parents what they need to know and please go and enjoy with your girlfriend!!See you and Regards Silvana

You are an adult and there is no reason, if you can fund this trip for yourself why you should have to get parental permission. Do you live with them? That's about the only thing I can see, if possibly they would kick you out. However, I think you're a big boy and you should be able to make your own decisions and I would tell your parents the same thing.

Well just tell them you're going there to visit a friend. It's true anyway. She can be considered a friend, right? You don't have to mention the word "girlfriend".

I think rather than trying to figure out a lie maybe you should sit down and find out why your parents don't want you to go. Ultimately you are of age so the choice is yours but experience has taught me that lying never solves anything and generally makes it worse. MERRY CHRISTMAS!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

So you're 25 and they still tell you not to go somewhere? Serious i would buy the ticket and on the day i would leave i say oh mom dad by the way i bought a ticket to go to my girlfriend and i will leave right now. And then i would close the door and will come back in 10 days and oh yeah before that i would definately say i love them,but that i really have to do this and they do not have to worry because i will be fine.

I AM All for love and romance but when you have to go to another country and face the objections of your parents then you are starting this relationship on a bad foot. I don't care if you are 25 ..as this was the age i first got married and it was a big mistake but no one could talk me out of this..does her parents accept you as a son-in-law..or do they look on you as a meal ticket? do you and your honey have the same relegion? faith.? culture? what will her relatives and your relatives say and do about you hooking up? well, i know that you may think you hare going to have all sweet times and roses everyday but life does not always end up like this..if this was the case there would never be divorce..and divorce and broken marriages are in the majority over the marriages that are happy or secure..but you will not listen to this negatgive news as I would not...and people would tell me the same bits of wisdom ..in the end you will do what you want but remember that only your children will be the real people who suffer from this union. Lying is not the way to start a good life...guilt will consume you and the truth always comes out..but its your life...don't let your little head think for your big head...and always be prepared against STD and pregnancy...

I wouldn't lie, just tell them this is what I'm doing and I hope you accept it.

Are you going to pay for your trip? Are you on your own? Are you serious in your relationship with this girl/? IF your parents are over protective, they will also be conscious of your happiness. Have no inhibitions in talking freely to them. There should be absolute honesty in your relationship. If you can convince them then they won't object. Why should there be lies and deceit in such a caring ,open relationship?

Ahhhh my sweet mylottian friend, your lie will be found out, and at the worst possible moment. That seem to be just how life works out. It's best that you as an adult, tell your parents the truth and put it in a way that it's not asking for permission but rather, telling them in a very respectful and polite way what your plans are. I think, that even if they are upset, it's something that in time, will be understood. :) Just my two cents.

tell them the truth,because they love you,and in the end they will understand it.

Hi,there! I wanna say it's better to tell your parents the truth.You're not young any more so that you can be responsible for yourself. You'd better talk to them very openly about what you think and what you wanna do.You're an adult and you can decide for yourself.You can also tell lies this time.But the question is : What about next time? You'll live on your own sooner or later.They can't protect you all the time. Can you always tell lies? That's not a good solution to solve the problems. Best wishes and good luck. I hope you'll overcome it:) Have a nice day and I wish a wonderful holiday with your gf^_^

I don't think a lie is the answer here. You are an adult, so why is it your parents' decision? Tell them the truth, and if they don't like it, well, that's their opinion, but you have to make your own choices and live your own life. Unless of course, you are depending on them to pay for the trip. If that is the case, they have the right to not pay if they don't want you to go.

Have you asked your parents' reasons why they don't allow you to go to another country? If you didn't do that yet, try asked them. If you have done, i think you can give some opinion or try to open your parents' mind. And You are not a child again. tell them to give you a change. It's better to know someone if we can meet face to face. If you want to tell them after you've the ticket, and your parents still don't allow you to go, and you keep go way, have you thinked maybe you could get accident on the trip because you go away without permission. Maybe yes maybe no. ok, That's all i think.

Jus do your own thing, its your own life you should take over it. If you want to see your girlfriend then go for it. I mean you'll be back to see your family. It's not like you're leaving for good. They just need to start respecting your decisions. I would just go and tell them that's your plan an d they can't say anything to stop you.

I can understand your parents as I am one myself - my son is 29.At the same time I can understand that this is a difficult situation for you. The same thing happened to me when I was 22. I wanted to go to Italy from UK with my Italian boyfriend - but this was over 30 years ago. I told my parents the truth. I asked them if they wanted me to be happy and of course they said they did. I knew they would be worried but parents have no right at your age to stop you doing as you wish if this is within reason of course. I assume you would pay for your trip? Then tell them you will be going to see friends without neccessarily saying it is your girlfriend which could imply to them that in futureyou may well stay there. I believe in being honest with my parents and my son as they are with me. Let us know how it goes please and good luck!