This is an old story... Please help me understand

I don't know much about these things, but I do think that yes, they might have been entitled to get back the money that they spent on the special aid for your mom. However, I'm assuming that your mom left your family more than that, and that this "heritage" was shared just between them? I think you should also be entitled to something even if you were living in France since you're still their sibling. Unless your mom left a will for them that you didn't know about, that's why they're just the ones who are sharing it...

I believe that since they not only paid for the aid and contributed to your moms care and welfare by being there for her that they are entitled to the monies from the sale of the house. I am sorry to say that if you were there for the entire thirteen years, that is a very long time to be away from an ailing mother. I could not do it. I do not think that there are any circumstances that would keep me in another country, away from my mother.

Hi assertive! I am sorry to hear that. As for me, I think it is not right that you were excluded. The inheritance should be divided equally amongst all of you unless there is a will. As a dutiful and loving child, you should not be asking payment or reimbursement for the expenses you have incurred for your mother or your parents. This should have been done out of love of a child to a parent. For me, what should have been done was the inheritance be divided equally and have the decency to tell you that if it is alright if they can have more share of the money because they need to repay some debts that were incurred upon the care of your mother. I think you should have been given the right to decide on the matter of inheritance and not just decide for themselves and divide it between them. You are still a part of the family. I mean even if i may be away from my mother it does not mean i love her less. Just my thoughts. take care and have a nice day.

I am not sure about the true story behind of it, but I will give my point of view regarding this matter. I think you should address this issue with your sister and other family members as soon as possible. You're right, I think it's unethical to do such manner. The deal is not reasonable. I think the heritage should also be shared with you.:-)