Are you in a position that you will Never be able to come fully out of the...

I think sometimes it is better to let your family think what they would like to think, generations change and your parents are from a different era why upset them, parents have expectations along the line of grandchildren and for some reason they think their children would be better off married but that is their dream...I think as time goes by all this sort of thing will be easier, the world is littl by little becoming more open minded.

i think you should talk with your monther. anyway you are a child in your monther' eye. no mater what happen, she will help you out althogh somtimes she will blame you.

It took me a while to come out to my family....all know but a select few....i have never denied i was gay and never told them i was straight.... haha..but i am open to all but them ur family not accepting you will be pretty damn tough i can imagine...i have friends who parents sent them to de-gay camps and all kinds of crazy things but your parents deep down in their anti gay heart will want you to be happy!!! and you deserve to be happy.....no one deserves to be kept from becoming the person they are STAY STRONG!!! good luck!!!

Hi gwendovere! I have friends who are lesbians and gays and a few of them are still hiding in the closet. I know it is really hard for them because they just wanted to be accepted of who they are and what they really are especially the acceptance of their families. However, a few of them have always chosen to hide it so as not to upset the family and create more problems because their parents are too narrow minded to a certain point. I have always been there for my lesbian and gay friends although i am straight. I can see how other people misjudged them for their gender alone and it is sad because we are in the modern era but the discrimination can come in different forms. Because when i am with my lesbian friend, people talk that i am having an affair with her and if i am with my gay friends, they say i am a loose woman. I am just glad my husband is so broadminded and he loves me very much and trust me as well. So, when it comes to your family just let it be for the time being because you can't force anyone to accept anything that is not within the context of what they think is right. I know it is really difficult because there is no peace within when you can't be true to yourself and true to your own family. But sometimes, one is not given that choice. Take care and have a beautiful day my friend. :)

yea, i cannot come out to some people in my family. they wont understand and its easier to just let them think what they want. i honestly only came out to a few people in my life. i've let my actions lead them to the conclusion that i am in a lesiban relationship. i told my mom, my sisters, and a few close friends. but i live with my girlfriend in a one bedroom and we are together all the time. i say we instead of I for most events and most people have put 2 and 2 together. i can't say everyone has but those that find it important have figured it out. it sucks at time, when i'm with my family or hers, we aren't as physical, but its the price we pay for having christian families i suppose. i'm sorry your mom can't take it, it took a lonnnnnnng time for mine to come around, she was even talking to my ex (a man) about how angry she was and he told me all about it..

so attracted to this topic. i think i'll never be able to get out of the closet since my family is just too.... conservative. i guess they knew about it coz there are too many clues. my appearance and all those letters my parents have found and READ (wtf). i have a girlfriend and we've been together for 2 years. i want to marry her and i really want my parents to be there but i just think it's not possible =(

why would your mom SAY that to you??? that's not only harsh, but did she explain why? to me, if she would say that it might mean she has some clue or fear that you ARE a lesbian, don't you think? what would make her say that to someone she assumed was 100% straight?

That is so sad! What does it really matter as long as you're happy?? I can only imagine what that must be like for you.

I tell everyone, even my grandma. I love them and hope they can deal with it, but if they can't that's their shi_, not mine. I'm to old to be in the closet at 31 ever.

I'm confused. I have read that you refer to someone as your 'hubby.' But I know you have talked about your coming to understand your own sexuality. Sorry if I'm slow!

Eh, I probably won't ever get to completely talk about being bi to my family. Mostly my Dad, though Mom'd be halfway there too. Though I think Mom's got a clue, and if Dad'll never figure it out...all the better for me. He still kinda has issues about me being pagan. Thinks I'm "straying away from wisdom" and all that happy stuff. Even tries lecturing me on religion sometimes. Blah. I don't think it matters too much, really. I mean I'll be out of here, soon enough. And all I've ever needed are my friends, I can chatter with them about girlfriends and boyfriends if I want to. They're more my family than my real relatives are, lol. Sometimes I'm frustrated by it. But it's just one more thing on top of the fact that, my parents won't ever really get me. I often will suggest and hint at things, and their reactions tell me more than enough. It's usually smartest to keep to myself. But maybe that's just 'cause, me and my family..each of us are so radically different from one another and clash so often. I only trust them as far as I can throw them..which isn't much, but we get along..OKAY, so what does it really matter? The whole world over can try to understand me..as long as my friends do..I think I won't need much else. But yes, I'm still frustrated by it sometimes. I've accepted it, but it gets to me occasionally. But that's life, right? Life's not easy and smooth, sometimes its frustrating and difficult ^_^

Well, I'm not completely in the closet. My friends and classmates knew it in high school. But yes, it is hard when the people who you can't share the real you are the people that are closes to your heart. My family don't know (or they just don't open it because I don't talk about it with them). Maybe I'm afraid because of the stories I read and heard about when a son gets disowned by his dad and his mom feels guilty because of his "condition". I might tell them someday and I hope others like us get the opportunity to tell the world who we truly are.

I am trapped in such a predicament. I would never let the cat out of the bag, because my culture doesn't tolerate homosexuality. Now I am quite worried about my marriage. What are you suppose to do? Get married and pretend to be straight?