Would you fly overseas to marry someone you met online?

i am really not very sure as to what your friend is thinking.many times it happens that a life long gets too short for one ot understand the other person and sometimes even a few days are more then enough to understand each other.however since its the case of amrrieage i will suggest you to calmly ask your friend to wait for some more time so that they can understand each other.since its a life long decision.and further i dsont think there is such a hurry of getting married.so make him understand that a wrong step of his good make his life worse.

Hi There, thats strange, I know a guy who has told me the same thing and is telling me now he is going to marry this woman. I wasnt trying to tell him what to do, so I was just happy for him. I mean I cant control his actions. I dont really think its a good idea, but I couldnt tell him that! He was so happy and excited. But when it doesnt work out one would probably yell and rant and ask why they werent stopped. LOL You cant really please anyone that has their hearts set on something. You can agree with them when you really dont or p!ss them off, sort of like you did. Maybe you shouldnt have said it that way. lol Offense may have come from how you said it. Its not a good idea, but hes going to have have to find this out on his own. I think he is really lonely and thinking he will never find anyone. All woman are not out for ones money, Im a woman and Im not that way. My hubby didnt have any money when I met him and he dont have much more than that now! LOL Then again, it might just work out!! Time will tell and only time. Bay Lay Gray xx

Hi cartoon4umaniacs! You cannot judge a book by it's cover. There may be people who want only money or a US citizenship but you cannot say that all are the same. Well, there are people who do fall in love over the internet or on first sight. You should give the girl benefit of doubt.But personally I would be cautious of anyone I have met on the internet because you can conceal a lot of things while chatting on the internet and paint a much colourful picture than what is in reality.

i agree with you.people from different countries,with different backgrounds ,speaking different languages can hardly understand each other completely unless they have spent a long time together.anyway marriage is serious and requires lifelong responsibility.it seems your friend should think twice before he goes to marry her.

No, i dont think so. i really appreciate what u have done to ur friend. However, u should know that if he fly overseas to marry her, maybe he is going to regret this for a while but maybe he will get a real lover; if not, he is going to regret this for a life!

my roomate also met her husbund online, they married within two months, i also think they are crazy. when they met online, the man came to China and meet her parents. they satisfied each other. and my roomate will go to Amarica in december. when she asked my opinion, i just said , at this moment,you dont want my advices, you just want my wishes, right? she said yes. do you think they are crazy? may be the people who fall in love are insane

Personally, I am Glad that I am married, because in today's day and age I have seen many different things. But for me, it would have really had been someone special if I would have wanted to Marry someone from overseas, as even someone from another state as well. I do have friends I have known who have done it, and are quite happy, but for me, I feel it would have been too awkward and not sure I would have ever allowed it to even get that far.

Personally, I would never do it. That being said, I have a friend who was nearly 50 years old and still not married. He longed for a wife. He decided to try the internet. He found a wonderful woman. They finally met in real life and were married. They are one of the happiest couples I know.

Your friend's problem is that he's too cynical. A lot of times if someone gets way too disillusioned, they start to get fantasical. Contradictory and hypocritical, yes, but it happens. He now has a horrendeous view of "US girls" and a fantastically idealistic view of "forgein girls". BOTH are wrong. So he's not only writing off any female near him, but he's idealizing women he'll either never meet or can't observe everyday and that's the dangerous part. Online "relatioships" are tricky in that, since you can't see the person the way they really are every single day, you're imagination can make them into anything which is usually everything they aren't. He has the slight possibility that it might work out, he's just not going about it in the right way.

Your friend is very fortunate that he has someone like you. Its nice of you to be concern for his well being. But sometimes advice is the only thing we could give a friend and not dictate on what is right or wrong for him. Ultimately its his choice to make. I'm from a third world country, and no all girls here are after a guy for money when finding love online. I have a lady friend that met an Italian guy online. After maybe 3 months of chatting they got married. Now they have two children and my friend is living in Italy. Again may i stress that the girl is not after the guy's money, I should know because the girl is my friend and has a stable job. She is just not lucky with love in our country and had the find the right guy online.

I agree that it is a bad idea. Marriage is not something that you should rush into. You need time to get to know that person.

love is quite mysterious, unassumable ... no body knows when & why love happens... but if once a person is truly in love he or she wants to get the person/object of love no matter what & can go to any extent to get his/her love, i am in no way different as people say love is blind , it knows no bound , but i must love someone & understand someone deeply to fly across the countries to get my love... here trust & immense love factor is the most important for me

no..way!

I believe it's a bad idea, I wouldn't marry so quickly. I know some people have indeed had successful marriages under those circumstances, but that's kind of rare. At least it's not as bad of an idea as a mail-order bride lol.

What happen to your friend is love at first sight, but the problem is still he dont know what is behind in that lady. we cannot judge him,but the good thing to do is set and talk to him, just explain to him it not easy to get married specially when the woman in the net only you met. just try & try to explain to him.

I know people who has done it. I think marriage to someone close to you is difficult, but marrying someone who you met online and do not know really well is even worse. I hear so much horror stories. What if this person is just marrying him to become a U.S. citizen? Has your friend thought about that angle. I think your friend should wait and not rush into marrying this young lady.

look this is personal choice. i hav also heard about few who met their love on internet and flew to other country to marry. But i will never do that as it is my personal choice.But all these people are not that much dump. so its not a problem.

Well there's nothing wrong with marrying someone that you met online. The problem with your friend is that he's rushing into it. They should go through the dating stage first. You have a point that many girls from third world countries simply want to migrate to America or are also after his money. But then again you can't really stop him from doing what he wants. He's fed up with American women. Now he just wants to try someone different.

Relationships can happen among people online because you can get to know the person's mind versus be obsessed with someone's appearance. However, moving to another country for someone is a serious matter. Because sure you are with that person, but you are also in an unknown land and life can sometimes be confusing or empty if you have relationship problems and no one to talk to because you are isolated. Or you just have no prospects for pursuing your interests or getting a job. I suggest that if they are serious about a relationship, they consider these things. If she cannot come to the united states on her own independent merits than he should explore going to her country or decide if its really worth it. If they were just living in different states my suggestion would be for her to move nearby but not be engaged or live with him for awhile because relationships are different in person - you take a few steps back and have to reestablish your relationship. So if they can do that great. if not it will be the world's shortest marriage.

i met my hubby online, but the good move is we have a long conversations to learn each other.. for 6 months and half .. then he came to my country to know my background meet my family and see how genuine i am.. Now my hubby and I are enganged to marry as he give me a bits of what is in his country and am i going to like it here. Then we lived in the same roof for 3 months on my first trip to know more about each other and see how much i love him and vice versa.. Loving someone needs time to know who the person really is.. nowadays they just play with their feelings and not thinking about the future.. I never liked a short time relationship as i am mature enough to think about my kids, building a family and having a guy that will stand by me for the rest of my life. There is no rush on everything,as love is always around we need to know the person we are going to spend 20-30 years or more. Because life is too short for us to muck around and not take notice of everything. I