Mother in Law's & Daughter in Laws

Generally the mother feels that she's gonna loose control over her son and resents the daughter-in-law for that, while most daughter-in-laws resent their ma-in-laws because they consider that she's gonna be an interfering busy-body. Over time if things work out well, the difference are ironed out and suddenly the men of the house have two formidible women together to reckon with. If the family works well together, there are a lot of enjoyable moments. I have been married for twenty five years and spent the first eightenn of those with my parents until I moved to Bangalore from Mumbai. I think my wife means more to my mother than I do, considering the amount of time these women spend exchanging notes and gossiping and supporting each other, and my wife and kids get more quality time from my parents than I do when my family and parents are in the same city, making me turn green with envy as well as swell with pride, if you know what I mean.

Iunno.. I love my mother in law

Because the mother beleives that she knows her son more than the daughter. The daughter beleives she knows her husband more. They both want to keep him nurtured (Only in different ways than the other) The mother also gets in the way of the relationship. The daughter-in-law gets in the way of the mother-son relationship. When the mothers son comes to visit him he is no longer by himself. Everything the mother says to her son she usually has to say around the daughter-in-law. The couple never get to raise their children exactly how they want because the mother-in-laws are always saying they are wrong. So, are you the mother-in-law, or the daughter-in-law? I'm the daughter-in-law right now... its weird..having a mother-in-law. I'm still trying to get used to it.

Because we're both competing for the same man's attention. That's true for me, if the truth be told.

I don't have that problem. My mother-in-law and I are great friends and I'd be lost without her. I've often told my hubby that the main reason I've never left him is because I don't want to lose her.

I think there is alot of competition. A mother sometimes feels like she's being replaced. Or that her son doesn't need her anymore. When a man gets married it's as if his wife takes over the duty of taking care of him. In a lot of ways they do. The wife can sometimes feel as if her husband expects her to do all of the things that his mom once did for him which can cause resentment for his mother. A man still does and will always need his mothers love as well as his wifes. Just don't ever compare them to one another, men. This is usually where all the problems start.

I don't have that problem with my mother-in-law. We get along well, are good friends and she never interferes or gives her opinion on things unless asked. I love this wonderful lady with all my heart and her son was the best gift whe has ever given me.

I don't know the reason why, but me and my mother in law gets along pretty good, we have had our differences before, but it's because I usually defend my husband.

I've been much with such situation and have learn my lesson well. Sometimes what we are agruing about is not between the two of us but because of his mother. But now, i know where to stand between them. And I know how much my husband loves me so much. That he is beside me at all cause. If there are miscommunication between the two of us (mopther in law and me) It was my husband who will be in the middle and would even scold his mother. Why? because my mother in law always get in between even if she's at the wrong side of the situation. And once she is being pinpointed on such situation, she will vehemently denied it and turn the blame to someoneelse. I pity her because she have never mature all these years...

I LOVE my MIL. Shes so amazing and helpful and never oversteps her boundaries. Hell, she watche dour little boy for the first time and asked me to show her how I like his diapers put on! Um, disposable diapers - I didn't realize there was any other way TO put them on lol, but you see, she just wanted to make sre it was done my way. How cool is that?

My mother in law and I don't get along. She has 13 grandchildren but if you ask her she will tell you she has 2 favorites. She never makes the effort to come see my kids and never calls to see how they are doing. My 3 yr old had surgery in Boston, they live in Boston they never even came to see him or even called. My neighbors were on vacation and they called him at the hospital to see how he was doing. I have called to invite her down but she always says "I don't think so" I used to try but now I don't bother. My kids don't miss them because they don't know them and it's their loss because my kids are great and have lots of love to give

When my brother got married, our Mom really struggled because she wanted a better relationship with her daughter-in-law than she had with her mother-in-law. She has this cheesy old saying, but I think its kind of fitting: A daughter is a daughter for life, but a son is a son till he takes him a wife. I think its easier for us girls to remain attached to our families and our husband than it is for him to. He has to be independent now, take care of his family. But his mother still wants to take care of him, and then the wife gets upset because she's interfering... etc. I have a pretty good relationship with my mother-in-law, thank goodness. Living 8 hours away may help:-P

i dont have a mother in law actually i'm in need of that.. i have a small baby only 4months very difficuilt to lookafter him without any support,atleast at the time for going bathrooms..!everybody who know about her says i'm unlucky because she was very nice,very loving... anyway i saw many places have quarrels between these two.. the thing is the son will be in the middle of them like in the middle of sea and devil...have to handle it carefully......!

Its not always like this. You can have good and smooth relation with your mother-in-law. If you have good relation with your own mother then i think there should be no problem to have a cool relation with your mother-in-law. It all depends on your mind that which relationship you want. You want as a mother-in-law relationship or a Mother relationship. First you have to give respect as same as you give to your own mother, and then you will see that your mother-in-law will treat you as your Daughter. I bet you, you try this and you will find good and profitable result.

I have a lovely DIL , she married my eldest son 22 years ago and we are the best of friends , I was really nervous the day I met her for the first time , but we became friends right away , she is a brilliant wife and mother and my son and granddaughters adore her as do myself and my hubby , but I think its not the same with all MIL and DIL's lol xx

I think it can be that the mother-in-law doesn't want to lose her son and thinks you're taking him away. There is a saying which goes like this "A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for life" or something like that. I guess some people think that's true! I get on really well with my partner's mum, I think she thinks I'm good for her son and I am nice! But my ex's mum, I never really felt comfortable with her even though we got on. I think that was a bit of a "mummy's boy" thing.