Wedding guest lists

Invite the people you wish to invite on their own merits. Never worry about "if this person goes, that one won't show," etc, or "this person doesn't like that one." They will have to work it out amongst themselves because this day is about your new marriage and what individuals you would like to share your day with. If she is a close friend, I would invite her over "a bunch of people at work." Coworkers unless you have worked with them for years and years and you consider them close friends outside of work certainly understand if they are not invited to the wedding of everyone at the office. As far as the friend who you don't like the girlfriend - you can't control what guest someone brings. You don't know whether the girlfriend is a mate for life or just his girlfriend for the time being, and it would hurt an awful lot if his friendship was less important than your approval of who he's with. They day should be about joy, not judgement. You are going to be busy enough that day that you won't have to talk to her beyond a thanking her for her congratulations. and besides, maybe she's not that bad.

You know what, it's YOUR wedding, invited who you want and don't invited who you don't want. Also, somehow, it seems you can say just about anything you want to people leading up to your wedding and later blame it on stress, if they get offended. You could always just tell your friend that you would like to have her there but if she comes then che can't drink and if she drinks she'll be asked to leave. Also, if you don't like your friend's girlfriend then I expect you don't care how she feels about you, so just invited him tell him and tell him she's not welcome. If he really wants to come he'll come without her.