The responsibilities of an eldest sister!!!!

of course. i feel the same way. i remember when i stopped schooling my mom would always scold me because i wasn't being a good example to my younger brother. but i had reasons then why i stopped. so i told my mom about it, she understood. but then there's still my brother who looks up at me lesser because of what happened. he looks up at me as a bad sister just because of my past 'wrong decisions'. it makes me feel bad at times but its most elder sisters/brothers burden. because we're older. we're supposed to be good examples to the younger ones.

i am not a girl but i know the responsibilities of an eldest sister that she should look after her brother or younger sister like mother.

you are right. But i think you must look at yourself also. it does not mean that you have to sacrifice all your happiness just being an elder sister. it is responsibility but with your happiness.

I am an eldest sister. My youngest sister put me on a pedestal for year. I was always afraid of falling off. Yes, we do need to forget our responsibilities sometimes and focus on our own happiness. I love my siblings (and kids), but I have finally done that and I am rediculously happy now.

you'e great! i salute you for being that kind of a siser to your siblings.... but think of yourself too...afterall... at the end of the day it will only be you and yourself alone whom you ae going to face....while it's remarkable to give yourself for them, you owe it to yourself to think about your welfare too... i am an eldest child too and the only girl among the three siblings... i am still single up to this time while my younger brothers are both married.. i have had my share of sacrifices in terms of my lovelife but it had been quite late now when i realize that i could have given myself some chance to look for my own hapiness... anyway,i just hope that if in case i may still have the chance... i would somehow think again.... afterall...if GOD has palns for me in this aspect.. who am i to resist.. cheer up my friend you have been a hero in your own right.. and GOD will reward you for this... GODSPEED!

I'm an eldest sister, too. It definitely is a job that comes with much responsibility. Whether you want your younger brothers and sisters to look up to you or not, they do. You want to have your own life, make your own mistakes, and not be labeled as the sole example of a "problem child". I believe that the only way you can lead by example, but have your own experiences, is to just to take the risks. So, yes, definitely fight for your happiness. Many times, the younger siblings will look at the good that you do and follow in those steps.

I think it's funny that now that I'm older and out on my own, my mom always calls me to complain about my 2 younger brothers and how lazy/disrespectful/selfish they are being, but when I was at home, when I complained of the same things, I always got brushed aside. I almost take a small pleasure in telling her 'I told you so' for all those years she accused ME of being lazy when really all I was trying to do was pick up the slack as best I could.