When something goes wrong, who or what do you blame?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
November 27, 2007 6:19am CST
When stuff goes wrong at your job or in your personal life, who or what do you blame? Do you blame the other person or look for fault in yourself? Do you imagine that it must be bad luck or something working against you to make you unhappy? How do you deal with it?
When something goes wrong in my life or job, I don't usually look around for anyone to blame. First, I check to make sure that the fault does not lie in my own actions. Often it's possible to get a small detail wrong, especially when working on the Internet, and then make small corrections.
But, sometimes when I feel completely defeated, I do get caught up in a self pity game or finger pointing and accusations. That is not a pretty sight. And, not one of my proudest moments. Sometimes I blame bad luck or bad Charma. That's never productive though.
How do you handle those types of situations?
6 responses
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
28 Nov 07
Hello, beauty! while doing some work it so happens that it goes wrong it may be due to ignorance or carelessness.no body creates any wrong knowingly so there is nothing to blame. ..i have come across such situation several times,and each time i analyse my course of actions and detect the fault and in the second attempt and some times in third attempt get the things done.some times i blame my self and some times to the situations.so nothing to worry about it, after all to err is humane.normally when we do some thing without planning such unpleasant situation occurs.best of luck.
@lostdoor (26)
• China
28 Nov 07
If somethings goes wrong, I never blame others, because i know that blaming each other is unuseful. but when i was young i did feel good by blaming others just like someone became my way to get out anger. You do feel better then, but you do hurt others' heart! so now i have studied to control my temper or get a football match will let me happy again.
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I am the type who looks to myself first and then towards others if I can't find fault with myself...I am trying to learn to not be so hard on myself..but it took me a lifetime to get to here so I am sure that I will be trying to change this bad habit for many years...lol
I do believe in the three-fold rule and that karma can play an important part in what happens to us...if we harm another...I believe that it comes back to us...even if the intentions were innocent to begin with...
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
With the kind of work I have I encountered lots of problems, more than my problems at home. If at work I looked for the reasons and blame those who was the cause. I usually flared up, that habit I want to change but after a short burst I am on my self again. But I never flared up if the problem is not that serious. But after determining who is at fault and knowing what to do then everything is all well. This attitude of mine I like to remove but sometimes I cant help it. But when youre getting older youre also melowing down on your actions, on your saying it, there is some maturity and more sense. How I wish I can fully control myself in all situations.
@overpowerpku (2)
• China
28 Nov 07
communication is impotant ,I think. Maybe ther's only aome misunderstanding occured.
So I think frankly speaking to each other is better.
