what would you tell your strict parents if you were kicked out of university?
By Kazashmaza
@Kazashmaza (431)
Australia
November 27, 2007 10:30am CST
I was recently kicked out of uni because I failed 2 out of 3 subjects. one I failed by 2 marks the other I failed by 1 mark. The reason was that the subjects were linked and I had the same question for the teachers but after trying to call many times, email and leave messages (I was studying off campus and lived a long way away) I couldn't get in touch with the teachers so I had to do the work off my own bat and got it wrong. They will not have a bar of it and kicked me out because I failed more than 50%. However, my parents are really strict and will not accept that, I will be disowned if I tell them.
What would you do?
3 responses
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Clearly you feel that the teachers were unfair because they did not provide you with the information you thought you needed to succeed. Don't you see a parallel between that and your thought of keeping information from your parents? If your parents are supporting you and/or paying for all or part of your education, then failing to tell them would be a much worse shortcoming than failing your courses.
On the other hand, if they are not paying for your education, then perhaps it is none of their business. Maybe it is different in Australia, but here the universities have a residency requirement, so that even if you passed your subjects with the highest mark you would still be "kicked out" if you studied off campus and lived far away.
If you really are interested in an education, you will find a way to succeed, but this is not something you can do just to please your parents.
@Kazashmaza (431)
• Australia
29 Nov 07
First of all... I studied off campus because I was working. At the uni I went to you can choose to study on campus with classes or you can do online learning. which is what I did.
Secondly, My parents did not pay. If I want to go to uni it is my choice.
and thirdly, I only failed by 1 mark for one subject and 3 marks for another. I don't see the parallel at all. I did everything I could to get in touch with these teachers. I was calling and emailing for weeks until the assignments were due and was unable to get in touch with them.
You may think that I am a fool for what happened but i am in a tough situation and was asking if people could help. I wasn't asking for people to take the piss.
I am very successful in my full time job and have weekly gigs as well as a singer. I managed to do this for the last 3 years of study without failing until now, which I see as an acheivement. I was hoping that someone could give me an idea on how I can put this across to my parents who will not see it that way. I do not want to work in the field that I studied as I am going down an alternate route with my work and am getting promoted rather quickly at the moment. I have been in my workplace for 8 months and have already had 3 promotions.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
29 Nov 07
Than in that case, I don't think you owe your parents any explanation. If they did not do the kinds of things most of us wish our parents would do or had done to facilitate your education, then there is no parallel and you are right not to see one, lol. My parents didn't lift a finger to help, either, in fact mine were both constantly trying to discourage me from achieving anything. Oh, well. One cannot please everyone. Congratulations, sounds like you are doing just fine!
@Kazashmaza (431)
• Australia
29 Nov 07
Thank you for your response. I will tell them but do you have any ideas how to go about it?
@stanzi2007 (602)
• United States
27 Nov 07
dear K...i would be honest with them, and tell them what you just told us...if they do disown you it will i'm sure be a temporary thing...when they begin to realize that you were honest, truthful, and did not lie to them on this matter, they will realize that more important then the education that you could receive at the university, was that they taught you to be an HONEST person...and that you can always enroll again at another university in the future...take your karma that your parents are going to dish out to you like a soldier, and be BRAVE and Courageous...believe me i speak to you with personal experience...i dropped out of 2 different universites when i was in my youth, and finally got my degree later on in life...keep in touch to let us know how you made out...stanzi
