How to break up with a friend?
By lorelai
@lorelai (1558)
Italy
November 28, 2007 5:06am CST
My best friend is really heavy person, she always wants everything her way, attacks me for stupid things, never listens to what I have to say and when she does she gets it wrong and attacks me because she thinks I am saying something that I am not. I am really sick and tired of her and each time we meet I try not to talk because I if I do we would fight. It started looking like a bad relationship. We had very difficult fights and I hoped she would stop considering me her friend but she didn't. I don't know what to do any more. I feel stupid because I try to avoid her and I stopped going to some places I know I would see her and this is becoming pathological. What do you think about it? What would you do if you were me?
3 responses
@mrshadow702 (5)
• United States
29 Nov 07
if i were you i would just come straight out with it instead of making her think that you like her just sit her down and tell her shes a good friend and thats what you want to staqy at just friends hopefully it works for you it worked with me good luck
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
29 Nov 07
The problem is that she doesn't understand what people say. I have already told her that I find her very difficult to deal with and that she is not a real friend because she was never there for me. But she is convinced that's not true. She had a boyfriend who left her telling her he didn't love her but she didn't accept that and she knows that he loves her although he doesn't.And the next day she continued calling him as if they were still together. I hope you can understand me better now. She hears anly what she wants to hear.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
28 Nov 07
Well it sounds you are not such good friends if there are fights all the time. Why don't you go to new places, consider new interests, take up a new hobby or sport and avoid this person. If she asks to meet you tell her you are otherwise occupied. If you have call display on your phone don't take her calls. There will come a time when you have to be honest with her and tell her you want to take time out of this friendship and go your own way, at least for a while. Good luck and don't feel guilty. A friendship has to be comfortable for both parties involved.
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@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
ah well it is not easy to break up with a friend especially if that person is difficult to deal with. of course there will be times that you two will get along but if you can't talk about real topics other than superficial ones because you always tend to argue then i don't think it's helpful for both of you to stay friends.
Don't hate her for being how she is but help her become a better person. If by not being a friend to her makes her realize things she won't realize, then maybe breaking up with her would be the best choice for everyone. =)
It may be time to move on from that relationship because no one is learning any life lesson/s that's meant to be learned or one party is not willing to learn from the other which makes the relationship stagnant.
