The two different feelings... daughter and mom to a newly mother!

i think you need to talk to your mother..you know elderly are very sensitive, needs attention too..and for your baby, you really need a younger nanny, but still you can let your mother to take care of your daughter but with much attention..hope that you and you mom will be in good terms..goodluck..

I think your mother is probably very hurt, accidents can happen with any one, a mother , a nanny anyone, I can understand your husbands feelings but these days I think it is better for children to be with family rather than strangers, as you say this is a crucial time for your daughter, they learn so much at this age I don't think it is good to be learning from strangers, explaint to your husband first then take your daughter to your mother and assure her you do not fault her and let her know how much you love and need her for your daughters sake and your mothers...goodluck.

You should have been more tactful with your mother. She is only trying to help you and you know it. also a hired nanny can never replace the love and sincerity of a grandmom. Pls talk to your mom again, apologise to her and do hire a nanny but only as a secondary help to your mom.

Oh man!. that is not good. but my mother has accidently burnt my daughter with coffee before on the hand.. she sat her coffee down to put her shoes on and my dauhgter was running to her because she was she new she was leaving.and my daughter knocked into it.and burnt her hand i was veary upset and of course was blaming my mother,because if she hadnt of sat it down my daughter wouldnt have bumped into it..i think i hurt my mothers feelings,but she got over it. i would just talk to your mother and see what happend and then think it over again. you cannot totaly disregard your husband feeling as he is the childs father.mabey not sure sorry if not.if not the father then the daddy, so youll have to think come to a conclusion and if your mom doesnt come to you.. go to her and bring the child with you to make her happy to see her little grand baby.... then explain what you have to...Or...be like look mom _______ wantws me to hire a nany,but i dont trust anyone really i dont know. so why dont u go spend the day there and watch over things while she is there... that way u have the nany but u are still asking your mom to help with your child/her grandchild:)

It is very sad on your part,to be unluck in the regard of the marital bliss.You have great responsibilities on your shoulders and you should not get discouraged about your deeds in the home at least lest being the mother.You should better care nearly and dearly for your daughter as do the mothers.That shall get you greatly done job status and your daughter shall be benefitted the most and might just not feel the absence ofdad in her life.

I love my mother too.

you should know your mother loves you and your daughter.it is true that she is not young any more,the daughter grows up day by day,maybe she is not able to take care of her.you can talk about this thing before this accident or after this accident for a long time.you talk about this thing at this time,it is obvious she will make a mistake.i suggest you meet her and talk about your opinion pure-heartedness,i think she will understand you.you are her daughter,mom love their daughter very much.

I don't think you can trust your daughter better off with nanny than with your own mother. Some nannies are older women too and I know that what happened was terrible but it could have happened even if someone else was babysitting your daughter. It's not easy to tell such a thing to your own mother but if you really think she is not capable of taking care of your daughter in the proper way you shouldn't leave the baby with her because your mother will survive a few hard words but your daughter can hurt herself even worst next time. The decision is yours, you have to decide objectively the abilities of your mother. But you must have in mind that accidents happen and if you don't blame your mother for it maybe it would have happened anyway. What would you do if it happened when your child was in the kinder garden or with a nanny?