How can you overcome a Rival who is also in love with the love of your life?
By Nic
@academic2 (7000)
Uganda
November 28, 2007 6:47am CST
Competition and rivalry over a boy friend or girl friend is common aspect of life. I have known peole who go to the extreme of eliminating their rivals-That is why in the animal kingdom, animals such as lions kill their male cubs, a school of mankeys or raindeers will always have a dominant male who enjoys a pecking order with regard to access to mating right rights in the group. Tell me, have you ever had faced intensed rivalry over someone you loved with all your heart? How can handle a rival successfully to your advantage? Share your tips.
3 responses
@yanxchick (250)
• United States
29 Nov 07
I consider myself a pretty competitive person. I want to win, there is no way else to look at it. I have recently (well not too recent) caught the poker bug. I love playing poker and I want to be the best.
One day while playing poker, there was this guy sitting at my table. He was smart, funny and very good. I wanted to beat him. Our rivalry became a friendship, which quickly turned into a relationship. After two years, my boyfriend and I are still together, even live with each other.
However, we still have this amazing rivalry while we are playing poker. I want to beat him and he wants to beat me. But we don't use this as a way to get mad at each other. We learn from each other's play. We talk about poker and how we could get better.
We are both very competitive. We play checkers and want to win. We play video games and both want to win. We play any game and both want to win. We never let that get in the way of our relationship though. We use it as an outlet to have fun with each other.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
29 Nov 07
Thanks for this reponse yanxchick-it is at the very core of human nature that we must have alwys the spirit of competition.
@lostdoor (26)
• China
29 Nov 07
In this aspect of life i am proud of having been a successful man all the time. that is true, i think my best advantage is always full of confidence, i believe that i am a special man who cannt be instead of forever, so you must let your another half know this point, if any rival appears, i will trust my girlfriend, she will choose me finally if she loves me, or i also wonnt be sad for her leaving, because she didnt true love me.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
29 Nov 07
You are my kind of man, love cannot be rigged, you are either loved or not loved, I like the way you leave it to the girl to decide, most men feel happy grabing love.
@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
28 Nov 07
Something I learned early in life is that you can not "make" someone love you or even "win" someones love. If they love you they do, if not they don't. You really can not do anything about it. Choosing someone to love is not a rational decision.
This being the case, the way to handle the rival is merely to go to the object of your affection and ask him or her, "Who's it going to be?". Then accept that answer, no matter how unpleasant.
I did this once and it really worked out that way the best for everyone, especially me. Because I was turned down, I met my current wife who is a much more fantastic partner than the one who rejected me.
For you cynics, out there, no that is not my "partner" with me in my avatar!
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
28 Nov 07
A great response, it reminds me of the great Acholi saying that when a bird is yours, it doesnt matter how far it flies, it will always come back to you, but if it is not, even if you flew after it with wings, you will never see it again in your compound. True, love matters cannot be competed for-your approach however requires one to deal with the ego first, men want to feel macho, they want to struggle and win regardless of whether the chemistry is there or not in that struggle for the heart. Thanks for your response redyellowblackdog!
