My imprisioned sister wants me to take her baby.

This is a big desicion, and an important one. If you and your hubby are not in agreement, and you do it anyways, it could be VERY bad for your marriage, but if you don't take the kid, you could regret it forever. Here's my advice, Talk to the hubby again, find out exactly what he's worried about financially. It seems like you will be recieving financial support from the gov't if you do keep the baby. Try to go over the budget and figure out how feasible it would be, and talk to your family, see if you can't get other family members committed to buying diapers, once a month or something (some times it DOES take a whole family to raise a child) Just ask, the worst thing they can do is say no right. Get as much of it in order and set before you talk to your hubby, so you have answers to some of your questions. Hint, don't get defensive and have this be a fight about what you want or what he wants. I would approach it this way, "We both know that it's best for the baby for it to be with us, now we have to see if it will work out on our end" Then be real with each other and yourself. Yes, it would be great to take in the kid, it just depends on whether you CAN do it or not. If he won't budge, then my suggestion would be to start looking now for a safe place for the baby to go. What about the other 3 kids, were they adopted? or are they in foster care? If they were adopted, try and see if that family would want another sibling? There are alot of families out there who would love a baby, and could prob. offer it more than your sister and possibly you could .. There are many adoption options such as Open adoptions where the family can still see the baby throughout the years.. I pray that you find the answer that you need and everything works out for your family. Good luck to you!

I think this one is a very tough situation to be involved in and if anyone were to give you advice, you followed it, or not, then regretted it later, what good did it do for you not to find the answer within yourself. On this level of a problem it is truly personal between blood and marriage, i.e. sister and husband. What does 'surverymom' want to do, from the bottom of her heart, from the well-springs of her soul from wherever she finds strength to do what is best for that child--what do you want to do ? sharing the light, Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A. Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer, Entrepreneur & Freelance extraordinaire

I think I would have to although I don't have the feeling of any other person to worry about, I guess you do have to consider your husbands feelings as well, I think maybe if you look at it maybe that one day in hope your sister will pull herself together and maybe one day will be able to have her baby back ...just a thought...

I think that you should take the baby. Sorry, I hate to lead you away from what your husband says, but that poor little baby needs a good home, and it seems like you can provide him/her (sorry I hate saying 'it' when talking about babies X.X lol). Since you can apply for more financial support after getting the baby it won't be that bad. If you do take the baby, it will be a very good thing you are doing. But you have to remember, if you absolutly can not take him/her no one will think badly of you. Maybe you could foster him/her until a good home is found?? And you said she says she is going to straighten out after jail? Does that mean she is going to want the baby back? I would say don't give it to her, at least until your absolutly sure she is better. Sorry, that's none of my business, but I wanted to throw it in.

You need to make this decision with your husband. He is going to be living there as well and may be financially involved too. But I know I couldnt let the baby go anywhere else, and would hope your husband would be understanding to that. It is always best to keep the children with their families. :) Good luck and many blesings.

for me,if you really want to help your sister, you can decide what you think is much better to you and to her baby.if you think that the baby will had an opportunity outside with you, why dont you try to take good care of her using you best.you remember, "that is a new life begins with a special care from you".thats all,i hope it will help you a little bit.

you can't do it,... this can land up very negative on you.. if you dont take the child...its with your sis.. else with your husband