how can we handle this?

If someone really, truly loves another and things don't work out they should be full of hope for the other and wish them a life of happiness and then get on with their own life as best they can, accepting that the person was not "the one" and the relationship was not to be. I reckon the majority of people who claim they are "depressed" are wallowing in their misery and feeling sorry for themselves and more than likely seeking attention. Obviously, extremes point to a mental instability but this is probably what caused the heartbreak in the first place. For instance: I had an acquaintance whose boyfriend dropped her. She went on and on and on about her lost love, her loneliness, her inability to understand why this happened when she was so devoted and did everything to please and on and on and on. She was negative in all aspects of her life; her work, her family; as if everything about her life was miserable and unfortunate. She was a total sad sack, a wet blanket and a pain in the neck and I totally understood why she had no boyfriend and no friends either. Her moaning and groaning went on for over 2 years till I left that place of work. Everyone told her to be more positive but she simply didn't get it. Most of the people who I know who claim to be depressed are boring, dull and have a very negative outlook. The claim of depression is a cry for attention but when they get it they push it away.

I use to manage depression, listening musiq, playing violen and i like chocolates, and i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.

Hello ainieshen, For Kind hearted people, a heartbroken incidence can result in depression. By looking at the symptoms you have given---it is better you consult a doctor and have a treatment. By taking medicines, if you change your atmosphere i.e indulging in mixing up with your family members, spend time on reading some good books, viewing interesting things on TV and concentrating Meditation will bring back you to normalcy very soon. Goodluck and wish you a speedy recovery.

You've got to get out of the house. It might sound tough to do right now but its the best way to recover. You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget about 'her' if you go out and meet a few more. If you stay around the house you'll probably intensify your current situation. Just make if you do go out to have a designated driver/chaperone because if you're a drinker it might be too esy to drink a litte too much. Better to be safe in that situation.

You need to keep busy, get a hobby, don't get back into another relationship until you are really sure, talk to a counsellor or a psycologist, don't think bout what as happened I now it is hard, but try not to dwell on the past, whats one is done, you need to move on. Otherwise if you letit take hold it will rule yur life