Do you hide money from your spouse?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
November 29, 2007 12:54pm CST
I hate to admit that I do hide money from my spouse. But, I guess that's better than hiding bills. He doesn't really spend lots of money, except at the grocery store. But, I worry that if all our paychecks were so readily available for easy spending there would be the temptation to buy every little thing on sale. Some things we can honestly live without. Noone has ever perished because they lacked a third DVD player.
Not that I'm such a perfect angel when it comes to budgeting or saving money. Personally, I can't even go by Ebay without buying or bidding on at least one item. Now that's pretty bad. But, I am better at saving money than him. So, saving money is my job. He makes the money and I save it.
My spouse and I have the same financial goals, so it's alright with him if I hide money or checking accounts. He trusts me with the money. And, knows that I'm looking out for our best long term interest, whatever that takes. So, whenever we are in a real financial bind or suffer job loss, then I'm able to bring out my back up savings that he didn't know about. When I do that, he thinks I'm such a smart woman.
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@sheenshaukat (2617)
• Pakistan
6 Dec 07
I could not hide money from my spouse. One day. At mid night. A wife made her husband to wake up. Why you disturb my asleep? Asked the husband. There is thief in side room. Replied the wife. So what? Asked the husband. Thief is searching for money in the pockets of your coat. Replied the wife. It does not matter. Don’t worry. Go and help the thief, as he is performing your routine job. Told the husband. This was a joke. But I feel that this is real story of our every day life. Our spouse considers the pocket or wallet of his or partner is for and by and of her or himself. There fore question does not arises to hide the money from our spouses.
@Tiredmama (21)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I sometimes sell things online and my husband doesn't know about this so yes I do hide money from him. I use this money to buy things like new clothes for our girls.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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30 Nov 07
I do tend to try and hide a little money from my partner simply because I know there will always be that unexpected bill or expense and at least with the hidden money we have a chance to cope. My partner earns the money, it's my job to make sure we have enough to pay the bills and by saving that little bit each month also means we have a tiny bit to spend on treats too
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Nov 07
No, never. All of our earnings are shared. We can use whatever we like. But when we buy some expensive things, then we will talk about it. And he gives me all of his incomings because I am the one who is in charge of dealing our money. Such as depositing, paying bills etc.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
30 Nov 07
Hi,
I do hide my income and money from my spouse with whom I lived before now departed. I was afraid whether all my income may be taken when I was careless and trusted my spouse by that time I used to keep my money in my desk without any safety. Even did not count how much my wallet contained. Still when suddenly one day I found that large amount was missing. Latter when I checked I found that was done by spouse. Later I became bit careful.
@Drumman (305)
• United States
30 Nov 07
My wife knows about all our accounts and we have plenty in there to pay for 5 months worth of bills if we both lost our jobs. Since we already have so much saved up there's no real need for her to hide any away. I don't think you should be hiding money. It shows a lack of trust. If you can't trust your spouse who can you trust?
If you're hiding it to prepare for an emergency that's one thing, but if you're hiding money so you can spend it on things behind his back then you should probably work on your relationship a little bit.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
29 Nov 07
I am in charge of the finances in our house too. He is in charge of making the money! He is absolutely terrible with money. I don't hide the money from him, he just isn't allowed to touch it!
That might sound bad to some people, but it was actually his idea. We would have nothing if the bill paying were left up to him. I know this for fact because we tried it and he put our bank account $700 negative. He wasted so much money that it makes me ill to think about it.
Things are great now that I am in charge. He has minimal contact with the money, so we actually have some!
@sephrenia (567)
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29 Nov 07
I've started hiding money from my spouse and he doesn't know about it. He's been hiding bills from me and whatnot and I only found out about it the a few days ago.
I sat down and asked him why he was hiding them and what have you and he said he didn't want to worry me but i pointed out that it worried me more when I saw unpaid bills than seeing them in the first place.
He's agreed to stop hiding bills but I don't think I can trust him again so I'm hiding money from him. It's the only way we can get any kind of savings together so I opened up a savings account yesterday and I hope I can get something into it.
At least he can't touch it and spend it because it requires my signature on all the paperwork to release the money. I'm glad your hubby knows about the money you hide and understands why you're doing it. I just wish I could be as open with my hubby as you are with yours.
@marissa0124 (179)
• New Zealand
30 Nov 07
For me, I hide money because Im saving it but my husband knows about it. We are both working and I think it is unfair to hide money from him and then spend it for my personal needs or to my family. We both need to know where our money is going. We also have the same goal that's why we are working so hard to save money and achieve our goals in life...=)
