potty training

My 5yo is not night trained... we are really struggling with him. He's okay during the daytime - a few accidents, but nothing major. When he was 4 he had quiet a few accidents... I think there were a few contributing factors: moving to a new house, a new brother, and I was pregnant! We just persevered and he's okay now (daytime). At night he's still in a diaper - yes, 3 in diapers! (5yo, 2 yo and a 10 mo) Wishing you luck in this journey!

A 4 year old can speak and understand well. Just be patient and ask him to tell ahead. My son is about 20 months and he can tell me ahead . You need to ask him to go to bathroom, in frequent intervals. It can be once in 2 hours and every time they leave the house. This way they can be trained. I am not using diapers for my son when he hgoes out to near by shop or to playground. JUst be patient with your child and they will get trained. No punishments. Just tell them that they are grown up and others may make fun.

You wrote that you have tried every incentive to get your son to use the potty. What are they? Have you taked away some of his privilages such as watching tv ot his favorite toys? Here what worked with my grandson. We moved very close to a playground. It was almost in our back yard.Of course this was when it was safe to let the kids go to a playground. any way he went to the playground and came home with wet pants. I got on his level and told him if he ever wet his pants he would never go to the playground again. End of pants wetting. Sometimes they just get so busy they forget to taker time to go to the bathrom. something else you might try is making him wear them for a while. Until he really gets uncomfortable. Of course that won't work with pullups because they pull the wettness away and the kid doesn't get uncomfortable.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. My friend has a 4 year old and she's going thru the same thing you are. She even took him to the Dr's to see if anything was wrong or if she was doing something wrong. To her disappointment, the dr told her that the worse thing she can do is push him and demand it from him. He said that he'll go when he's ready, and since he knows 'how' to go, he'll go soon, just give him time and keep encouraging him. Hope your son gets back on track.

I have a 3 yo boy who is now fully potty trained and I am not looking forward to when he may fall back again - I am really hoping that he won't. One thing that I think may have helped with training my son - he would NOT go poops on the potty, is that when he did, I would really ignore him and not pay much attention to him and he's a MOMMAS BOY!! I think it really got to him and helped him to realize that he needed to go on the potty. I also did a chart for him that when he went he got to put a sticker on then when he got 10 he got a prize. LIttle for pee and big for poops cuz he didn't have much of a problem peeing.. GOOD LUCK!!! P.S. SillyChic has a lot of good ideas.... :)

Children often do this to get attention, and to have some control in their lives. I would stop the pull ups, no matter how often the accidents are. That is not going to help stop the accidents. The extra work now is worth getting him back on track. When he has an accident, don't react much. Just tell him to go get some clean clothes and get changed and clean himself up. Then supervise to make sure he does a good job, but Don't do it for him. Having the resposibility to clean up the mess will have an impact. You could even have him help do the laundry. He can put the clothes in the washer, close the lid, put them in the drier, and help fold and put them away. Don't punish him or give him too much attention, just go right back to what you were doing. When he does use the toilet praise him and give him lots of attention. You don't have to necessarily give him rewards of toys or things like that, but if you do keep them small. For instance, make a sticker chart, and if he gets at least 5 stickers in a day, then he gets a reward, like a small toy, or an extra privilege. Is there anything else going on, like a recent move, or starting a new preschool? Those kinds of things can sometimes cause children to regress. If that is the case, be sure to never, ever punish for accidents.