How long should you leave a post "open" (before choosing "best response")

Hi lecanis, Thanks for your response. A month seems reasonable, and this gives infrequent users a chance to respond too. However, as this here is not a "big issue", I thought 2 weeks would be enough, I'll see how it goes. - Thanks again... I haven't come across a post yet, which got "closed" only after an hour or so... , guess I have been "lucky" so far. I also do respond to posts where the best response has been already chosen, because it is not my motivation behind the responding to even try to have the "best response", as I am here for the fun of having good conversations and sharing thoughts and ideas. I do it, because I like the subject and like to contribute to these conversations out of interest. However, I don't expect a reply to my response, where the post has been "closed" already, because - as I noticed - some of you here have so many posts that it is understandable, if you only reply to your "open" ones. But any response is nice to receive. To the choosing of the "best response": A "best response" doesn't have to be "good" in my eyes, amongst all responses it can be compared to it only has to be the best. For now it is yours, because it is the only one! lol But to "beat" you, someone else will have to put some thought into their response, because you already did! Since this is my first post, can you actually comment, when you choose the "best response", to why you chose a particular one over others? Or do you just leave a reply with that response? Happy posting, I'm sure we will stumble over each other here more often in the future. ;)

On less serious issues, I would be more willing to close a discussion early as well. Especially if I had a really good response to it already, or if I knew I was going to be offline for a bit and wasn't sure when I would get back to it. Right now your discussion reminded me how behind I was on choosing them, and decided to clear some up. So you're an inspiration! :P It is true that some people have a lot of posts up, but I still think it's only polite to still respond even to the closed ones. I try to respond even when people dig up really old discussions of mine, but maybe I'm just weird that way. I do have an obsession with being overly kind sometimes, so maybe I shouldn't expect the same of other people. You have a point that a best response really only has to be the best out of what is available. That is after all what it means. However... I guess I'm really picky because I do put so much thought into my responses. Even on silly discussions, I take my time and think about what I'm writing. On more serious ones, I've been known to take an hour to make a response, and even occasionally do research in order to make a proper one. It's taking mylot way too seriously, but I don't do anything halfway, not even my recreational stuff. Since I'm this way, again, I'm probably expecting too much of others. When you choose a best response and you want to say why, you would just do it in a comment to that response. Though it would be neat if mylot set that up as a feature, so you could put why underneath the spot at the top of your discussion where it says who got best responses. I love when people leave comments explaining why someone got best response, especially on those discussions when there were many good responses! It's interesting to see how other people's minds work, and what they value. I'm sure we'll stumble over each other plenty! :)

Haha, you make a good point about the money issue. While it's nice to get paid for talking on a forum, I could make as much at my real job in a few hours than I could in a month here. I don't think I'm going to be quitting my job to do mylot all day anytime soon! You know, I just posted a poem on another discussion about how "small things are enough for me". Thinking about it, I both do and don't expect things of others. It would be nice if everyone could take their responses and discussions as seriously as I do, but honestly it's enough for me that my friends are kind to me here, and take their responses to me with as much seriousness or as much silliness as I do. One good response can make up for 100 bad ones for me. :) Hehe, I wish I could tell dirty jokes. I can't tell any kind of jokes, as I'm incapable of remembering them. It's an odd thing. In elementary school I memorized and recited Poe's "The Raven" but I can't remember a five-line joke. *giggles* I am told I'm rather adept at flirting, talking dirty, and being witty. If you check out my discussions, there's plenty of dirty material there (and often more information than you probably needed about my life and interests). :P

When I was in elementary school we always had sports day. We had competitions for different events. There was a first , second, and third. Regardless though we all got participation ribbons. I think that was important

We live in a competitive society... I've got some board-games for my kids, where there is no "winner". E.g. there are different coloured snails racing, everyone rolls a coloured dice and the goal is, to see which snail will win! Might be a little bit boring (for the older ones), but the little ones like these games and my kids never ever had a single fight during these games...

Hi Monkeyrose, Thank you for your response. :) Sometimes I read a discussion but don't have the time to answer, as I usually like to take more time. So I probably would "miss out" (or better: won't have a "chance" to get the "best response (award)" It wouldn't matter to me personally, as do respond to posts, where the "best answer" has been chosen. But I can imagine there are people which prefer to respond to posts where they still have a chance... Sometimes I'm not in here for days that is the reason for me personally to why I would give more time to respond... After all, I would explain, why I still gave "best response" and would make clear, why I nevertheless didn't really like the response. And this reminds me of my daughter (5), who just had a competition at gymnastics; because - regardless of their performances - every kid received a medal "best response". This way they all got motivated to perform even better in the future. Maybe this works then for some of the so-called "undeserved" responses too.

Hi Adoniah, thank you for your friendship and your response. I just mentioned above, that I am really busy at the moment between work, my posts and other discussions I responded to during my short time of existence here. Many people have 100+ friends here, it would be hard even for them to respond to all their friends posts I guess (I don't know, because I have 4 friends so far, where I would love to check out your profiles posts and responses. But as a matter of fact, it is 07.33pm and I should be at "band practice" at 07.30 and I am still sitting here. (It'll take me another 20 minutes to get there) People don't see these things sometimes. And I bet, we all are just same as busy. Once I get payed as much here, as I earn at work, I rather be here 8 hours a day, believe me! (Maybe myLot could make me an offer, haha) However, I'm on holidays over xmas and then at the latest I will find some time to spend on your profile. Thanks again for being you (and here) ;)