How much do you love your mom?

I do have plans of bringing her with me hre in singapore. But she has to do some physical therapy first.Hopefully, she will be ok by the end of the month. Told her to have a double-time in doing her exercise. I might go back to Cebu by december too. If the bookings are still available.and the ticket not so expensive. We do sms each other from time to time.At 67, she is a good texter on her age. will call her tonight. I consider going back to the Phils, right now as the very least option that I can do, with all the bills that are flooding on my mails today.

I wish you all the best my friend. Hope you clear the bills soon. Please try this wish site and maybe one day your wish might be granted: www.robinhoodfund.com. There are nice people there even though your wish will not win you can get moral support. God bless you and grant all your wishes.

I wish you all the best my friend. Hope you clear the bills soon. Please try this wish site and maybe one day your wish might be granted: www.robinhoodfund.com. There are nice people there even though your wish will not win you can get moral support. God bless you and grant all your wishes.

Hi Bayleighgray. YEs bringing my mom along with me is an option. But it doesn't come that fast. There are a lot of things to consider like her medical maintenance and physical therapy. If everything goes well after her therapy , I am hopeful we will be together again ..and spend quality time together to make up for all the lost years.Thanks for dropping by Bay.

Hi oneandonemakesix. I am also glad that Singapore is just 3hrs plus away from Phils. This makes me easier to travel back and forth. which I am planning to do by next few months to come if my mom wouln't be able to come and stay with me here for awhile. Quite expensive but have no choice but to live with it for awhile..Thanks for the reply.

That's good to hear Din, at least that is an option in the near future. I'm sure her therapy will go fine and all will work out. Blessings. xx

Maybe you are expecting too much too soon for both of you. Grieving takes time. Maybe if you are crying together you will find comfort together and then you might hurt less.

I thought of doing that too. ..asking her on how she met him and why she fell in love with him. But i only end up sobbing. I think it's me who needs to be over it first.

well the same thing you are going through here is the way it is in my family right now...My childrens dad got killed in Sept 22, this year,part of their grief is based on guilt, because even though they saw him they really felt like they should have spent more time with him.Don't beat your self up about this, guilt is always a factor anytime you lose a loved one,this is just part of the grieving process.If your relationship was good with your Dad, then it is fine,he knew you loved him...You are feeling natural feelings..If your Mom is old,maybe you could get her to come be with you...Is there anyone in the family where your mom lives that can look after her.?.In my case i was the only one that would do for my mom, thats why i had to be there for one thing, i had no choice..Have you thought about talking with your Mom and asking her what she thinks and how she feels about this, you might be surprised, these older folks will surprise you with there wonderful idea's...

I know, i really feel bad for you having so much to think about.As far Mom no one could do for her like you can, i understand that,because she is your mom you do everything from Love.We will just pray that your answer will come soon.

I know I really have to get rid of the guilt feelings soon before it dominates me. Right now, both are crucial to me. Since getting here in Singapore is not easy...and waht's more of getting a job if one is a foreigner. Maybe I could live in Cebu for awhile . But the question is, for how long. In Philippines, money is very important. We have no security in terms of hospitalisations and other medical needs. Though there are small government grants but almost everyone is running after it. I just wish I wouldn't need to go this far. My mom is staying with my cousin and her family right now. Though my cousin is taking care of her...I just feel that the way I take care of my mom is really different ...you know the mother-daughter thing. I just hope I could come up with a good decision real soon. I couldn't sleep lately.

Yes, it is a very difficult decision indeed. I am torn between staying here in Singapore for my job and back to Phils. where my mom is. I have asked my mom if she wants to come with me here in Sg and she said yes. The only problem is that her physical disability. Medications and maintenance here in Sg cost a lot. I cannot afford it yet. Right now, she is having her physical therapy in cebu. Hopefully, she will come to visit me next month if there's improvement on her. My mom is alone in CEbu.. i mean not totally alone because she is with my cousin and her family. The thing is, I am not with her. She is willing to move with me. ..my only concern is her health..and the high cost of living here. She has medical check ups now and then. And I wonder if she will ever get bored in here or something.

Your mom won't be totally alone then I say take the move. Visit her frequently and save money to move her over as soon as you can afford. As long as she knows whats going on and you keep touch I'm sure everything will work out.

Thanks kabayan..sometimes we really have no choice but to look on both roads. Sacrifices are meant to be as we take life's journey. Good luck in Uk.

Im back in the philippines I meant....^_^

my mom has this bad attitude too that even herself couldn't comprehend.But I just let it be that way. She is old and what I have in mind right now is just to take care of her and let her be happy ..

How come you stay far away from your family? Is it a choice or you have no choice? Because on my side, I need to go abroad to be free from poverty which my country is so good at. Since you live in the US, I am just wonderin,why?

Thanks stanzi.. I have been away for almost 3weeks. Had a lot of things to do back home. I am stil holding on with God's grace and strength. I think that's all I have with me noe. Thanks for dropping by.