money, friend, problems

Hi Sardine, I agree with your friend. I don't loan money to friends, its just makes more problems than anything. I know it's hard to say no, because saying no sort of says "I don't trust you" and that can be hurtful to the friend you are turning down. But then if you do, and they don't pay you back, then thats even a bigger problem. I try to stick with the rule, if you can't GIVE them the money, then leave it alone. 200 pounds is quite a bit! That's like close to $400 US dollars. WOW! Your a really nice person. Do you think you will be loaning anyone else money in the future? How do you feel about it? Bay Lay Gray xx

I also not very like to lend money to others.I afaid they don't want to return back or forget.So I hope they dont ask me to lend money.I also don't lend money from friends.

For me, personally, I would lend money to someone who I thought needed it. I have before. However, I wouldn't lend money to them "expecting" it back. We can make a deal that they'll repay the money, but if I really want the money returned, I wouldn't lend it. Keeping that outlook keeps any quarrels to a minimum for me. Besides, if you don't expect to be paid back, you'll be grateful when they do. But, if they don't, you won't have expected it in the first place.

Well, in most cases I think I will still lend money to my friends whom I know well... but I will not lend money that I can afford to loose. If we lend something, we know taht there is a tendency that our money will not be returned to us... So , I prefer that if I am going to lend anyone my money or things... i know that there is a possibility that I wont have it back.

Hi sardine372000. I always lend money to friends, classmates or the "friends" of my friends.I do not know why I always lend my money to someone. But it is just that I also sometimes need to borrow money when I forgot my allowances or that my money is not enough in case of emergency. Since I am still a student, I always have a problem on whom to borrow money. I can borrow money with my friends. Usually I paid them a week, or month/s, or even a year later. But I always paid them. It is really kind of them, my friends to be understanding. There was this one time, I needed cash for my fare. And I do not know where to borrow. And I saw this guy who is much older than me who is a running for a student government. he is good, and a brotherly-like figure. He gave me money and when I told him that I will pay him back the next day , he just said to keep it. His attitude may seems to you or to anyone who doesn't know him will think that he is doing that to win a place in the student government. but he is not like that. I couldn't believe what he said. I just felt shy, embarrassed. Hello? We are not that really close but he knows my face because we are both in the same university since elementary. he is so generous. from then on, I always lend my money to my friends, classmates, or the friends of my friends when they needed it or sometimes they wanted to buy some food. Sometimes, they pay, sometimes they don't. It is not painful for me to lend my money when they needed it. but it is really painful that when i lend my money to someone, they do not pay back. And it really happens to me sometimes with my friends, classmates, and to the "friends" of my friends. I guess I just sort of did what the person-who is running for the student government-did to me. I think it is better if you lend money to your friends. because someday, you will also need their help. maybe not in money.

Lending money is a dangerous thing to do no matter how close you are to a person. I have seen it ruin friendships and tear families apart. The best thing to do is to say no if you can. If you can't then loan the money, but try and make it feel as if you are giving it away (to yourself not the other person). That way if they take a long time to pay you back, or not at all, you are okay with it. It also feels rather like a gift when you get it back. It is believed that we can't say no to our friends, but in fact a friendship is more likely to survive you saying no then it is to survive anger, and frustration brought on by someone not paying you back, or the guilt that they feel.

my answer is "No", i would never lend a money to someone i didnt know well enough.i sometimes lend money to my close friend but i naver chase them to pay me back, i just wait until they have money to pay me.beside i also didnt have lots of money so the amount i loan to my friend only small amount,so its doesnt matter.even if i have lots of money i would still considered 1st,specially if its in big amount.

in some point you are right but perhaps not all. I still let my friends lend and vice versa but of course to those only who are close to me or sometimes not close thats only if i see or feel the sincerity because i know sometimes people are broke due to some problems and im willing to help if i have something to help. My friends knows my credibility so no problem in lending money besides money is just money , it can be earned but of course i didnt mean i just let always people to lend from me, i know how to refused when i dont have and i know people when they are abused and i know people who are sincere. So sometimes we have to be careful too.

I am extremely not happy with lending money to friends familiar or not so familiar whomever they are. I believe that lending money to a person whom we know may bring down the affectionate and love we had for them. There would be something itching in both of our minds till the money is returned back. Once I gave a money to one of my colleague who is not actually a friend but a familiar person. He said that he need some money to meet the medical expenses of this father. I thought the money I gave could help him in getting medicine for this father. When he left after getting the money from me, I heard from another guy that the person who took the money was away with his girlfriend for a movie. I was really shocked to hear that but really helped in gaining such experience. Please be very careful in lending money to a new person and it is always better to avoid lending money to a known person...

Hi,there! Well,first I'd like to say it's very nice of you to do that. When someone we know comes across some problems,it's very nice to offer some help.But just as what you said,what if the one is not our close friend.Well,I will definitely lend money to my close friends if they're in need. As to those I'm not familiar with,I'll try to get to know how is this person and whether I could trust him/her,whether he/she will give it back to me on time.If I know he/she is not a person that I can trust,then I won't lend money to him/her.Sorry to hear that you came across such a girl who always found excuses and didn't give the money back on time.Maybe you need to be more cautious next time.Best regards and have a nice weekend^_^

It depends on how urgent the need is. I generally would not lend money to someone I am not familiar with. However, I remember giving some money to an acquaintance when I heard that she is going for a surgery and have been going around borrowing money to cover the fees. Later on, I found out that she did not need as much as she claimed and used most of the money people gave her to start her own business instead. Oh well, hope she is doing well with my money. Afterall, I gave it with good intentions and would not want to doubt her reasons for cheating money.

im sorry but i dont know how much pounds are converted into usa dollars so i am confused to how much you lent her.

I only give money to friends who I trust and know will pay me back if it's a lot of money. If its a small amount it won't bother me much. But If you need the money more then i would say not to.