Mom Watching TV? Regularly...
By hi_gourab
@hi_gourab (242)
India
December 1, 2007 1:37am CST
Every day after Sun goes down,my mom watch tv for 6 to 7 hours.
It is a habbit for mom now.she can't leave the tv show or films,never.
I am an final year engineering student and my mom is only a housewife.she never goes
any other place for any type of get together or party.
she just have a work and that is only cooking.she finished cooking at morning totally.
my father is a busy person,he is a doctor.He never get time to talk to my mother for a few minutes.I am the only son who always live outstation from home for studies.
In this situation what is your responsibility or what you should do for your mom?
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8 responses
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
1 Dec 07
That is a very tough question! Maybe it is the most difficult one I've seen yet here on myLot! Obviously your first responsibility right now is to do your very best in your important last year of school. So for the time being, I think you must let your mother have her habit, even though you seem concerned about it. Are you saying that she has several servants who clean the house, wash the dishes, do the laundry, shop, and all the other things most housewives do in addition to their cooking? It is hard to know what to recommend without more information. I am also wondering how you know that she watches the TV for 6 or 7 hours, since you live away from home.
@hi_gourab (242)
• India
1 Dec 07
Thanks for replying.
I tried my best for results.
Whenever I am home,I used to talk with mom or go for shopping.
BUT it is very short time for me.
no she had only one servants to wash the dishes,clean the rooms.
others works for my mom.If you want to know any other information please tell me.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I hesitate to ask you if you have mentioned any of your concerns to your father because being a doctor, he would certainly notice if his wife seemed to be losing interest in things or had some symptoms of a medical condition. I'm still not completely sure what your primary concern is. Do you think she is endangering her health by not getting enough exercise? Do you think she needs to stimulate her mind more in order to prevent senility? Is she getting overweight from all the sitting? Is it a moral objection to giving in to a habit/addiction? When he first retired, my husband sat around watching TV a bit too much, I thought, but truly he just needed a while to get used to the change. Now he turns the TV off and walks away to do something else when there is nothing interesting on. Most women I know who watch TV do something else while watching, such as needlework, or in my case, myLotting.
If it is not too personal, what did she say when you told her of your concern?
@hi_gourab (242)
• India
2 Dec 07
No no there is nothing personal.
There is no such symptoms of psychotic or something else.
My mom is totally clean and healthy.
The only thing that I worried is the loneliness of my mom,
nothing else.If their is something that can help my mom please tell me.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
1 Dec 07
Hello hi_gourab. I can see how busy your father is as a doctor and the same with you as you are in your last year at university and is probably busy writing your paper and finding some prospective job in advance. I think that your mother is used to this kind of life as a housewife if she does not show interest in social activities. But it is ok for her as she can still find some of her own way to have some amusement by watching TV at home. I think that she also loves her quiet and peaceful life this way. You know, every one has his own way of life that has long been formed. Thanks for your discussion, dear friend.
@hi_gourab (242)
• India
1 Dec 07
Thanks sir,But is not a good idea to watch tv for 6 to 7 hr continuously.
I think it is better to having social work than amusement.
There is any indoor social work that can be very comfortable,but there is no such option for my mom so that she choose tv.
So whenever I am home I will talk to my mom so that she can't feel alone.
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@hi_gourab (242)
• India
26 Mar 08
This is my pleasure to honor you sir.
I am very thankful to you for sharing your views.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
26 Mar 08
Hello dear friend. I thank you so much for the best response. I hope that your mom is not lonesome at home, but very happy to do whatever she likes. Thanks again and I hope to see you more active here. Good night.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
4 Dec 07
She obviously likes her TV, so all you can do is love and respect her.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 07
Hello hi_gourab,
I feel pity for your mother. I think she doesn't have anyone else to talk to or engage in a conversation and that is why she chooses to watch TV for 6-7 hours a day. Since your father is a doctor, we can't blame him for not being there for your mother. His responsibilities are too much to bear sometimes. He belongs not only to the family but to his patients as well. Maybe whenever you are at home, you should sit and accompany your mother to watch her favorite shows and at the same time, try to make her engage in a conversation with you. How about your neighbors? Your mother never feel like talking to them or just have a chat with them once a while? I think she is just trying to kill the time and forget about her boredom for being alone.
@miracleworld (201)
• India
1 Dec 07
:)..its only because ur mom is not working ...its alright ..the only way of entertainment she has...my mom does not work...she also watch a lot of TV..but i spent time with my mom...take her out to the beach for shopping ...all sorts of thing and did reduce the habit..
Regards
Harry
@pree70 (525)
• India
30 Dec 07
hello.
i fully understand your predicament. my mom is just about the same. i sometimes get irritated, seeing her watch all those programmes on tv. her justification is that since she doesn't go anywhere, like us, she too should have some type of entertainment. Inspite of pointing out to her that it may affect her health, the story continues to be the same.. i have given up these days. no. there is nothing you can do for your mom because it has become an addiction. good luck anyway. i am glad that you are concerned about the situation.
@BayleighGray (4334)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Hi hi!
That's a lot of TV watching by your Mom there. What kind of time do you have? I mean could you take her places? Even if it's out to eat a meal or something? Or take her to a cinema. I'm not sure what kinds of attractions you have where you live, but perhaps a film museum or something that she has interest in.
I have the same problem only with the internet. I hardly watch TV until hubby comes home from work. I need to get out more, and I try to push myself to do something other than the necessary leaving like the grocery store.
Best wishes in what ever you decide to do!
Bay Lay Gray xx
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
1 Dec 07
I understand you so well because my mother does the same. She is not a housewife, she works 8 hours a day and she comes home at 3:30pm every day. My grandma usually cooks something so my mother doesn't even need to cook then she just gets up from the table, doesn't even do the dishes and lies on the sofa and watches tv for hours until she fall a sleep. I tried to talk to her about this but she gets angy immediately.
