Do you believe in paybacks

I try to just stay away from people like that. I dont do paybacks. It only hurts me when I do that. I feel quilty and angry and those feelings seem to get worse over time. So I have found that you can pay someone back by being nice to them and it works better. They cant stand it that you are nice instead of rude like them. LOL

Terry, You have been doing the right thing, and since that didn't work, then sometimes you're just left with no choice but to serve a pay back. I thought you have been doing very well, but they kept pushing, so push back. I'll help you push! LOL Is there a new problem or the same one? Bay Lay Gray xx

Well it depends on what you mean by payback..is it just shouting at them bigtime and embarrassing them or is it going the entire way to make their life miserable.well if its the first one then sure but i dont believe in real payback...simply a waste of my time...making myself better is much more useful...

Hello dear TerryZ. To this kind of people, I have no desire to argue with him, but ignore him as I don't think that it makes sense for me to pay him back. If I got excited at this, I would not feel good the whole day, so I always try to calm down without letting me pay him back. Thanks for your discussion, dear friend.

well yes i do believe in paybacks,but i love to have the person think what i am up too then doing something.it's more fun that way because they never know what i am gonna do.keep them in suspense is great.they always get whats coming in the end no matter what.what comes around goes around.pattie

You know what they say...Paybacks are a bit$h...and yes, I have done a few paybacks in my time....just at the right moment in time. You can only take so much, and the more you take, the more they deal it out....but then, aaahhhhaaaahhhhaaaaaa, gotcha! But, I usually don't let it get very far, I have quite the temper and it doesn't take me long to snap, haha. Anybody bothering you Terry???????????????, haha, just let me know.

Well Sweetie when it comes to me I just let it lie but when someone hurts my Friends I am out for the Revenge believe me Love you Sweetie and bear with us

i would like to pay back bcoz that will be a good that v do to them.so doing so will make u feel happy

There is a popular saying, "Revenge is sweet" lol. So if you feel like it, by all means. But if you can hold your cool, it is real COOL if you can repay evil with goodness. =)

Oh know, I hope you don't mean it is someone here on myLot. Does someone need a good old fashioned gang up by all of TerryZ fans???? For me, I eventually push back but usually do it in private. I don't know if I would call it a payback as much as self defense.

I do believe in paybacks. But I believe people get paid back regardless without your help. I think everything you do wrong comes back on you sooner or later. So when someone does something wrong to me something bad will happen to them it may be a few years down the road, but they will get theirs.

Hi TerryZ, we can't let people walk over us, but I don't believe in revenge either. I have often said things that I regretted afterwards, and it never made me feel good. I think we have to find a better way, and every situation is different. Blessings.

I don't believe in payback I believe in karma and what comes around goes around. And my Mum when I was a kid used to say that if someone was picking on me it was because they were jealous. I now tell my son and nieces the same thing.

Paying someone back is probable not the way to change the way someone treats you. All it does is make them angry and inspires them to find a way to pay you back. It can start a vicious cycle. Still I agree that you cannot always just stoically stand there and take it on the chin. Why is this person finding fault with you? Is it your boss, a friend, a co-worker, or just an idiot that needs to blow off steam and you are handy. You can't do much about your boss unless you have another job lined up. A friend you just wait until they cool down and then talk it out. A co-worker, now theres a chance to out shine them and pass over them for a promotion. An idiot is the one that maybe stands in line for the payback.

Well, in my life, there have been a lot of situations. Many of them were Good, and some of them not so good. What I often wonder, is how they can sleep with themselves if they are Bad, and continue to be like this to others? I believe in Charma even if that means I as a Chrsitian should treat them with kindness and respect even when they are acting out on others themselves. In my lifetime, there have been many times I have lashed back at someone but I am not sure it really ever does anything. So now, I just try to be nice to them, or avoid them if need be, and Pray and believe that everything we do Good or Bad comes around so if they are Bad it will come back to them. 2 of the people I had issues at work with were eventually let go due to this same issue, so I know it happens. So just remember not everyone in this world is supportive and many will try and harm us. Just do the best you can and God will bless you for it in return.

Why would any persons words have so much weight? It is not what they are saying that makes you angry, it is your perseption of what they are saying that makes you angry. We can not change what others say or belive, but we can change our perseption. People use words to provoce us or to try to tear us down, and honestly the reasons why these words hurt us is becouse of our own doughts that they may be true, or our fears of what they are saying. Does one word realy have any power? No, only our understanding of that word and what weight we give that word. If someone says to me,"you are a bad father", Honestly i know that I am not a bad father, i do make mistakes sometimes, but I learn from them, If I asked a hundered people if i were a bad father I would get many differnt answers, so how do I calculate the truth of the matter? Words = 0, Truly only my own perseption matters, and don't give a second of wondering if they are right. Secondly these people are to be pettied. becouse when someone finds it neccary to critisize you or put you down it is only to build themselves up becouse of their own presived short commings. So when some one puts me down my first reaction is to feel sorry for them becouse i know that inside their own heart is much sorrow and pain they are feeling about their ownselves. Jesus said as well "prey for those who use you and do wrong to you", why? becouse they have no hope within them, and only after excepting themselves for who and what they are can they find peace with themselves and others. When someone says something to you just smile and say may "God Bless you" For Jesus also said "by doing kindness to those who hate you you will be heaping hot coals on their head".

Yeah i mean paybacks are nice. But i try not to take revenge on someone. I think we should always try to be a better person.

Hi TerryZ! There are times that I would pay them back or sometimes i just keep quiet and oh just try to let it go. But when i had enough of the crap they are throwing at me, I do give them a piece of what they deserve and sometimes much more. haha.. I guess, I have my own limits too in patience and being good. I can be nasty too and sometimes it feels good. haha.. take care and have a nice day. :)

No I believe in turn the other cheek, unless it is done to my children then I want to have a sit down and discuss it because while I can forgive, I will make sure they dont forget what they have done.

trust me all of usd have some part of us which chokes from wanting to seek revenge. they were not wrong to say thatpayback is sweet and especially when all goes to plan and you beat your worst nemy at their own game!it feels so good and i love fantasising about it but in the end i do nothing about just let it ride.