Baby Cries

When my son was very young, I had these feelings too. Some people told me that if I picked him up when he cried that I would spoil him. I completely disagree. I agree with your statement that your baby needs to know you are there for them. And sometimes, when all their physical needs are met, they still may just need some love and attention. If my son was just whimpering a little, I left him alone to see what he would do. Sometimes he would focus on something or put his thumb in his mouth and was fine. Other times it would turn into a cry, which I took to mean he needed me. It is important not to jump at every little sound because babies need to learn to soothe themselves, as my son did. But don't leave them too long, or they won't learn to trust you to be there for them. And if they are screaming like something is wrong, you should check, just to be sure. Before long you get to know the difference between cries when something is really wrong or when they just want attention.

I have always had a hard time listening to my baby cry. I usually only let him cry if I am feeling frustrated and stressed (like you) or when he needs to go to bed. Sometimes he gets so tired and I know that is the problem and I have to suffer while he cries himself to sleep. That doesn't happen often and now that he is 16 months rocking him to sleep doesn't work like it did when he was a baby baby. Additionally, he sleeps through the night and has for ages and ages (real early in life). Part of this is due to his own sleeping patterns and part of it is because we let him cry himself back to sleep when he woke up in the night (and was old enough not to need a middle of the night feeding).

No, I couldnt let my baby cry, sometimes they just need to be held..Theres no way on earth I could let them cry like yo hear some people do...

I got told by my doctor and the health visitor to leave my son to cry when he was a baby and i tried to do that for a few nights, but my son just got more upset and just cried louder and louder until i picked him up and calmed him down, which after i left him to cry for a few minutes it was harder to calm him down. If i pick him up and calm him down after a minute he calms down alot quicker and settles back off to sleep faster too. When he was 1 years old and crying in his cot, if he got left to cry for longer than one minute he started to panic and get scared that no-one was in his room with him. Now that hes 18 months old and in his own bed, he just gets up out of bed to find me and my husband. I don't like leaving him to cry and it didn't work for me or my son when i tried it for few days. Some mothers say it worked for them and others it doesn't........ So i think it depends on th child to if it will work or not. ~ Joeys wife

My baby is not even six months old yet but I do not let her cry it out. I follow my instincts and I feel like my baby doesn't cry for no reason. I don't jump at her every whimper but if she is full-out crying I do try to attend to her as soon as possible.

Well, it seems far away from me... But I will never leave him alone...

it all depends on the situation. At night, if the baby is fed, changed diapers, and all that, then I say let them cry. On the other hand during the day I think it is perfectly acceptable to pick them up. You are right the baby needs to know you are there for them, but they can't think that they are in charge of you, even at such a young age.

I just cannot bear it. I feel so hurt myself when my baby cries. I check if everything is ok with him and try to calm him down. If I hear any baby crying, I feel so worried about the baby. But, there are situations when he does it purposely (he is 3 yrs old) then I tell him to finish his crying and then come to me. Take care of your baby.