Who is more responsible for the children?
By Ms Michelle
@lenapoo (678)
United States
December 2, 2007 1:18am CST
I have a friend that is caught up in the average situation that occurs b/w a unwed couple these days. I am not saying that all people go through this, but the majority does. To make a long story short she had a baby with her ex an when she found out that she was pregnant they got back together. He was good to her in the beginning, but soon after she turned about six months is when the trouble started. She would have to get up in the middle of the night and go looking for him at his friends houses and things like that. Yeah, I guess that would be okay if it wasn't 5 in the morning an she didn't have to be to work at 8. When she had told me what was goin' on I told her to talk to him about how she felt. She said she had talked to him an he said he was only hanging out like that because he wouldn't be able to after she had the baby. Well that was a bunch of crock as well because now that she has had the baby he still hangs out until 3 or 4 an now that she has had the baby she has to get up at 6 to get him dressed and to the babysitters house as well as herself and make it to work by 8. She talked to him about it again and he said that she just wanted to start a war and he just needed some time to get himself together and that he was moving out. She is very confident that he is just going through a phase and he will be okay because he is the love of her life. He is never there for his son at all. She has to do everything for him on her own which is completely unfair to her. She didn't lay down and make the baby by herself. In this situation is she wrong or is he wrong or what? Is it right for me to feel that he should step up to the plate and be a man about it? Is she wrong to feel that they still have a chance at love?
2 responses
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Yeah she is wrong. She is wrong and nuts if she thinks he's going to change.
He's an adult child. He doesn't care about the kid, the woman or anything other than going out partying with friends.
I'd drop him like a hot rock and walk away, never to look at him again.
She can't make him grow up and be mature anymore than I can make a cactus turn into an oak tree. She needs to realize he's never going to be there and move on.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
22 Dec 07
U are exactly right, but I feel like who am I to crush her hopes of him miraculously coming back. An the thing is this isn't the first time that he has done it. I personally believe that she should just leave him alone, but to each his own. All I can do is offer my love and support to her an the baby. I hope that she realizes this before it is too late, but what can u say to someone that tells u that the person that cares for them the least is the love of their life.
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