Help your old in the family ?

Yes, my brothers and I do take care of my mom who is dying. we don't want to see her in a nursing home. As for me, I am so very independent that it would be very hard for me to ask any of my girls for help. I am sure they would help me but it would be very very hard for me to accept. I really hope I never find myself in that spot.

Its extremely nice of you to take care of your mom. But i dont think its a matter of dignity. Parents normally dont think like that. Parents dont like to trouble their kids in any way and knowing the kids are also having a bad financial time, a parent would never like to be a burden. Not because they are proud, its just, i dont know how to explain. When we grow old, we have insurance plan and some money is automatically gets saved which we can take out when we pass 55 yrs of age. So that's there for me and my hubby. But i am sure my kids will look after us. I have a small dream to get away from all the haa hoo and go to a retirement facility with my hubby. We have another 30 years. So, dont know what future holds for us.

Yes definitely it is the duty of all children to help their parents in the old age, specially in India where parents spend their entire lives and savings to establish their children and the state does hardly anything to take care of the aged. My parents are quite well-off and though I have offered many times, they don’t take any money from me. But my in-laws are not so well-off and though I don’t stay together, my husband gives them substantial financial help every month and with all my support. I am always for taking care of parents whether my own or my husband’s. As for myself, it would be beneath my dignity to ask for any financial help from my only son. I am saving every penny to establish him and I want him to pursue his goals without any strings attached. Since both my hubby and me are working, we are managing to save some for our old age too.

I'll have no problem helping to take care of my mother in any way I can if it ever comes to that. However, I refuse to ever have children, and to have children only as some kind of retirement plan is sick and selfish. Children are independent individuals, they don't "owe" their parents simply because their parents chose to have children.

hi ketybhagat.i truly agree with you.its the duty of every vhild to take care of thier parents in thier oldage.eversince they had done so much for our bringing that we should do whatever little that we can do.parents generally donot ask for money from their children since they dont want to be dependent on them because they know that even children also have their own problem.that's why me and my partner has taken lots of investment policies for our retirement.

Many parents never ask for money to their kids,but in many countrys social insurance not enough to their to earn lives.Maybe we need some non-goverment organization to help to resolve this problem.Because many kids are too poor to give money to their parents

Yes we should definitely take care of the old people in our family. Some day we too will be like them - weak and in poor health. I manage my parents' investments so hopefully that will give them cash flow for the rest of their lives. As for me, I am independent minded so I don't think I will ever rely on my children for financial assistance.