age differences....

Yes/No. My daughters are both too young BUT when they are 15 years old and came home to tell me they wanted to date a person 12 years older than them.. I don't think so! Now if both of them are above 18 and able to make decisions for themselves, why not? I personally don't think age should make a difference as long as you enjoy each other's company and love one another. Too many people look for approval from outsiders and it really shouldn't matter!

i can reply to this cause i am in the same situation. if she loves him it shouldn't matter as long as she is over 18 that is the important factor. and if it was to get serious to the point of marraige i would hope that she wouldn't consider this to be her first serious relationship. i feel that it is important to not jump into a marriage on the first serious relationship because she would not have no comparison i know that sounds flacky but i to had this problem. my first wife was my first serious relationship and after being married for a few years wasn't really sure why cause i would see other couples and they didn't fight nearly as much as we did. so that was all i knew so i thought it was normal and i grew to acept it. as for my new GF we have been together for 2 years and i have never felt so in love we have never fought. at first i thought something was wrong cause we never fought guess i missed the pain. and as for other things she can benifit hoprfully this guy is mature acting, experianced on how to act in a relationship and experianced with finances and other things that would be of a more mature content. so if she does love him age should not even be a factor compatability should and does he treat her like a lady and will he take care of her

I don't think that age gap is a NO NO in a relationship. It is ok to have a relationship with someone who is older or younger than you as long as both people are not commited to another relationship. I have a friend who has a suitor who is 6 yrs younger than her and i was against it. I didn't realize that I was hurting my friend for judging her. Now i understand that in love, there is no right age, but there is a right time.

Hello dear reanne. I think that age is not a big problem so long as they love each other. I had two colleagues who are a couple. The age difference is very big because the husband is old enough to be her father, but they still have a very good relationship and have two kids, a boy and a girl. So I think that age difference is not a problem at all if they both love each other. Thanks for your discussion.

Hello there reanne! If I were to ask, age doesn't really matter at all. It may sound a bit awkward to other people for lovers who have very big age gaps. But I don't think it is a hindrance. What matters most is the love they feel for each. Second is the compatibility between them and most of all, the comfort they feel when they are together. Love can happen at any moment of one's life. Thus, age doesn't really matter at all. I know several couples who have big age differences but they still end up so happy with each other.

age does not matter. she shouldn't break up with him over it, especially if she's so in love with him. my boyfriend is 7years older than i am. we never really even think about the age difference - although there are times when he'll say how he used to watch this show growing up and it was on when i was still in diapers or something, haha. but she should definitely stay with him if she cares that much for him.

Go ahead, Age will be no bar.

all I can say is that age does not matter when you love someone. My wife is 9 years younger than I am and so far our marriage has been really great! As long as you have trust and respect to each other, you would be fine.

Generally, age doesn't really matter but I think it would depend on the age of your friend. If your friend is say, 15 years old and the guy is 12 years older then personally, I think the guy is too old for her because they're at different life stages (i.e. she's still in high school while he (I presume) has been working for a number of years already and has so much more life experience)but if she's older, say 30 and he's 42, I don't think it really makes a difference. But I guess it really doesn't matter either way, the most important thing is whether they love each other.

i suppose your friend must be an Asian if she really loves the man and the man is worthy to marry with,so why not continue? it\s her love ,not anybody else,maybe others' advices is reasonable ,but she is the main person refer to ,so ,just ask her heart to give her an answer

hello, reanne!you have not mentioned age of your friend and her boy friend.however,i tell you that if the boy friend is unmarried and the age difference is within 10 years then no harm.but if he is already married your friend should not run after him because thereby she will be inviting troubles for her self for the rest of her life.consider the disadvantages of such an alliance.{1}the reputation of your friend will go to hell as people will start thinking her as a mindless,cheap lady.{2}the relationship is not likely to remain cordial for long as incompatibility due to physical and emotional difference may surface soon.even the ideas and actions do not synchronise.{3}in many cases,the man realises his folly after a few years or gets bored with her and start ignoring and ill-treating.{4}due age difference,the man often becomes suspicious about the character of his young wife which may cause heartburn and fights.and there are so many disadvantages in such alliances.thank you and all the best.

Only she can tell how well she's getting along with the person. I talked to people that were married with partners of a 25 years age difference and they said they don't care what people say as long as they are happy together.

Well for me if you are inlove there is no such thing as AGE GAP. My hubby and I have a 4 - 5 years age gap and we're still going stronger every year. Of course we have those common relationship fights but it's normal because every obstacle help the relationship to last long. Anyway, if your friend really love the guy then she shouldn't break up with him just because of the age gap. It's not the age that keeps the relationship, it's how they make things work out for them.

I think depending on the ages, it matters. Like when you're 40 dating a 30 year old, I don't think it's that strange. Both people have a lot of life experiences that bring them to the same level of maturity. It also depends on the person because if the older one is always thinking they're better than the younger one, then neither will be happy. This also works if the younger one becomes self conscious and does not believe in their own level of maturity and therefore, find themselves not on the same intellectual level with their partner. I found this to be true for me since I dated this guy who was three years younger than me. He's 14 and I'm 17. At this age, there is really a difference in maturity and how we both viewed the world. He was in that whole "I need reassurance because I'm emo" stage, and I frankly, didn't feel the need to constantly reassure someone about themself just because he found me to be a particularly sympathetic person, which I think is the reason he was attracted to me the first place. He thought I was like this extremely ray of sunshine type of person who saw the good in everything and would be the first to comfort him about his "depressing life". (Sorry if I'm beyond ranting at this point!!) I felt like he just admired me too much to actually be a boyfriend. I wanted someone who saw me as a person, not some sort of angel raised on a pedestal giving the "devil" (that's what he referred to our relationship as...) a "second" chance at happiness and life or something like that.

First look at the reason why she is breaking up. Is the age difference only reason? Actually i feel personally that 12 yr age difference is big. But for some ppl in love it does not matter.If she really love him, why she thinks of leaving him?

Hi I firmly beleive that age difference in a relasionship does not matter the most important thing is happiness I have a wife who is 10 years older than me and we have had a wonderfull life together we had a few problems at first with a few of the rellies thinking that age was a problem but we stuck it out and it has paid off so my advice to you friend is GO for IT Cheers!

I think age is nothing but numbers. I personally have not allowed it to affect my realtionship cos my fiance is 3 yrs older than I. And it has not affected us in anyway. LOL

Hello reanne, Well, I do not think that the age matter in general, however it can be shown later on during the relationship. 12 years ma bee some different in thinking, like things, and socializing. I do not know, but it´s a feeling I have. Love is a strange thing, it may let you go blind of the differences between them. Love has a strange way. I do not really know what to tell her. I probably would not say anything at all. It´s all up to her. And If her family, friends do not mind, I think the time will tell if it is alright. This is something she has to work out for her self. If Love is strong enough It will work, if it is not, it will not, only time can tell.

hi Reanne.well i hink age actually odes ont matter in true love.if your friend really loves tat person and she thinks as to that man can really love her all throughout her life and take good care of her,then i think there should not be any sexond thought given to him.love can happen to anyone at any age.the most important thing that should be considered is just that whether the person loves me truly or not.i am sure the guy has a good maturity as well.so i think she should go ahead.

i dont think agematters in love because love doe not comes on seeeingage.. it comes onlyon seeing their beauty and understanding...you can continue with him until a big misunderstanding occurs or until he suspects you.....