Will the father be jealous when you show much love to the kids?
By fanji008
@fanji008 (775)
China
December 3, 2007 8:56am CST
Hi,there! I hear some guys say that when the women have the kids especially at the beginning,they were just like nothing. So will the father be jealous when you show much love to the kids? How does he express that? Have you ever tried to balance that? What did you do?
Hope to hear your ideas:)
3 responses
@nkhanna (922)
• India
5 Dec 07
hi fanji.since i ave no kids as if know.i really cannot answer this question.but yes i have heard from many of friends that its gets really difficult to manage kids and husband together.both needs time.many women give more preferance to their kids and in result the partners feel lonely and deprived of love and many a times they look for someone else.i think its really tough but one as to make a balance between both.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
4 Dec 07
Hello dear fanji. I am not jealousy at all because my kid needs more love from us either of us parents. Only love could make our kid grow happily. So there is no reason for me to get jealousy if my partner shows more love to my kid. Thanks for your discussion.
@Carnanco (70)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I think my daughter gets just as jealous as my husband. It is a balancing act. He gets upset when we don't have enough "us time" if you know what I mean. And that is completely reasonable, he goes to bed early and gets up at 4am for work. My daughter doesn't like to go to bed until 9 or 10pm. It makes it tough. But on the other hand, if he hugs me, she is right at my knee wanting to be picked up and join in on the love. If we cuddle on the couch, she'll climb up and sit between us. She is 15 months now. She doesn't now but for months and months she could be sound asleep in her room and as soon as we get intimate, she wakes up crying. It's like she has love radar! Thank god that part stopped! The rest is cute.
I think it is very important for moms to make sure they balance their time well between work and home, husband and kids, and always try to get in a little time for yourself too!