Friends having affairs.....

Why oh why do people get married when they are not committed to the person they are marrying???? I don't get it. Why needlessly hurt someone because of your own selfishness? Your friend is not thinking of anyone but herself at this time. If it were her in her husbands shoes she would be wailing to the sky about how wrong she has been treated. I know your confidence to your friend is important, but overall, think about the husband. Doesn't he deserve happiness and deserve to know that his wife is making him look like a fool? If she is cheating on him now with a friend, this behavior will not stop. What if she gets pregnant? How will she know who the father is? Even if they use contraceptives, they aren't 100% and there will always be a question. Should this man raise a child that could possibly not be his? Not to mention if she ends this relationship with her side man and finds another man, what if he has AIDS or another STD that is incurable? There are so many variables in which this could end. I think it's your responsibility as a friend to both to step up. You don't even have to have it come from you, but you can anonymously send a letter to her husband to his workplace or you can set it up where he will see them together. Overall, this man needs to know his wife is not worthy of his love. I know this girl is your friend, but she needs a wake up call.

i would keep my best friend confidences, or else she will cease to be your best friend, when you let the cat out of the bag...that is her karma alone to deal with and you could offer her your opinion of the affair, but i would not take it upon yourself to let the husband know.

i would talk to the woman and her affair that what they did is not right, then talk to the woman alone and start giving her a long lecture about this case.if this is not working then let them go, stay away from them otherwise when the husband found out about this ( which he will one day ) you'll not between them

It's hard but the best way you can do about it is to just say your opinion as a friend. That you are against this and she should rectify whatever she is doing. If she doesn't love her husband try divorcing her first to make things right. I really don't understand why she has to do this cheating when there are many option to make the the affair more acceptable.

I would keep my mouth shut. What my best friend does is her business. I'm not saying that having an affair is ok, but I'm not sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong. A friend of my dads cheats on his wife. All their friends know it, but no one tells the wife. Why? Because the wife is happy and in love. They have two kids together and he takes care of his family. Why burst the wifes happy bubble and break her heart? True she probably will find out eventually, but better to just let that happen by itself.

I'd remove myself from the whole situation. I would not want to be a part of that and would not be.

This is what I would do..so that you can keep neutral..if you want to make things honest..arrange for the parties involved to run into each other .."unexpectedly" ..make it so the husband to run into the unfaithful wife in the the act of unfaithfulness... Say if the unfaithful is meeting the other to eat or other..maybe you can send an anonymous letter for the husband to come to the place..maybe sign it ..with the wifes name..etc. I myself dont involve myself in fights like that but if I felt inclined I could make it so parties will find out;)

u know this quetion come in our mind if we dont fall in love out of furtration n sometime it come out of happiness.....who r invlove in this m,atter they can say n who r broken by heart they will say that love is most disguting thing hahahaha i know love is beautfull untill u wont exprice u wont understand...keep it up

i will at first ask my friend why she/he is doing so. i may be his good friend, but it is not at all right to cheat his/her spouse. I will ask the problem he is having with his spouse and advice him to stop this.

In such a condition it would be better to leave everything on luck and fate. Whatever that would happen afterward would be good and for the betterment of all, so it should be left on time to solve the problem.

This is a difficult place to be in. I wouldn't do any more than you are already doing. Just keep talking to her. She obviously needs to choose one man, but I wouldn't tell her husband. He needs to either know what is going on, or she needs to break it off with the other guy. But he needs to find out from some other source or she needs to tell him. I'm tired and unsure if anything I am saying is making any sense. Being in the middle is an uncomfortable postion, I wish you the best of luck.

I would always think what would be best for me. Like it this kind of thing happen to me how should i react or what would my feelings. :P Recently, I had that encounter. Sad to say but they called the marriage off.

hi friend.i will keep my best friend's confidence.obviously her husband comes to me only after her.her friendship is more important ot me.however being a good friend of her i will talk to her and make her realise as to what wrong she is doing and how it can create blunder in her life as well others,i mean to say thier parents and relatives as well.i will also talk to my guy friend as well and try to make him understand as to he should come in between the husband and wife.since now she is married her first preferance is her hubby.its okay that right now he is not knkowing it but he will definately know one day and then he will never forgive her for all this.tell both of them to be alert before time goes out from their hand and they will not even anything to repent also.

Ill just keep quiet and do nothing because eventually they'll get what they deserve. Why would i lose friends for taking action against. i'd rather stay quiet