Love and marry OR Marry and then love?

I think marriage is an institution that has outlived its usefulness. Wemon want to get married because they are going to get the better end of the stick, big wedding for wemon, socially it is expected that the man will take care of the woman, when the marriage ends the woman gets half of the stuff plus possibly even more money and property from the man when it is over for an ongoing period of time. I also believe that men any way are not programed to be with only one mate and society and marriage set men up for failure. Overtinme, you are going to want to be with someone else. SO my thought is avoid marriage and children at all cost. I have been married twice, I got nothing great out of being married.

2nd option is acceptible

To marry someone there needs to be a foundation of love. I dont see how anyone could marry someone without love, considering that marriage is symbolic for love.

marry and then love.it will be better for the life

marry and then love. its a deal for life. and also love is never by choice, so it can be pretty risky to marry and then love.

Love and then marry. You should never marry someone you dont love, that is why I dont agree with arranged marriages.