Who controls the money in your household?

well when we first got together i took care of the finances, then things got hard and he was spending money we didn't have so i let him take care of the finances saying you can figure out how i do it. i paid attention to what he was doing not letting him know that. he did pretty good. i recently took over again and now its a joint thing. when the bills come in who ever got the mail writes the bill in our "bill book" and on saturdays (our only day off together) we pay what ever needs to be paid and go over our budget for the week. its working very well and we actually seem to have more money these days. Good luck in talking to your husband about this. try just sitting with him and asking questions look around and see how he does it then offer to "help" at first.

No one controls the money here, but I do all the bills and stuff because he is disorganized and a bit flighty when it comes to money. When it comes to spending it, though, we usually consult each other about purchases before and after to see if we are on track with spending. I don't think I have ever bought anything without telling him first and letting him know how much I spent afterwards. I'm a stay at home mom so I don't have any income but the money has always been "ours" from the moment he proposed 8 1/2 years ago.

Personally, I think it is better if both people in the relationship have a good handle on the bills. It is not good for one person to be in control because if something happens the the other party would not be able to just pick up and pay the bills. It would be best if you both sat down and looked at all the bills you have to pay and create a budget. Every month sit down a re-evaluate the situation and make changes if need be. This is how we handle our bills. I am the one who actually pay them but we do review the bills and expenses monthly together.

Hello MOM!! - i stay home and i don't work because now i have chronic sickness Fibromyalgia and i DO not CONTROL, but i prefer to tell i take care of the ECONOMY OR THE BUDGET of the family in the household. Main reason, my hubby is from Holland where the money is now Euros, so often double value than canadian dollar, we moved in Canada 6 years ago. I am quebecer french canadian.* - doing a Budget can be an easy way to show your husband you want or you wish participate MORE in the money matter of your house & family, "soft way", be more "delicate" and don't use the big word CONTROL, who looks like Dictature from a Leader giving ORDERS to the partner in the couple, so be more subtil and choice your words with feminine intuition will help you and your hubby to accept the transition you want do and bring in your new couple lifestyle maybe... Good Luck! Be Positive & Smile! Dania x x x

I'm a stay at home mom and my husband give me the money to control the budget in our house. He isn't home all the time so how can he be able to meet demands of the necessities and need of the house including our kid's simplest needs? I didn't ask for it but he let me do it.

No one controls the money at our house. He makes the money, I pay the bills & we make a budget together. Finances are one of the top reasons for divorce. Both parties should have an equal knowledge of the family finances, what is coming in & going out.

i guess the answer to that question has to be my father. since he is the one bringing in the income obviously he controls it.

Neither one of us controls the money. We sit down together and figure hat bills are due and what we can afford to pay. We stick to a tight grocery budget of 50.00 a week and rarely ever eat out.We are slowly working our way out of debt.

We both do, but mostly because we aren't married and we each work full time. But we share the bills, and we share in the cost of daily living, if I'm driving his vehicle and it needs gas I stop, and the same with him. It's kinda funny though, whenever he's going to make a big purchase, he always asks my opinion, even though he knows that it's his money he's spending, not really our's. But, that works for us, with my ex-husband, I was a stay at home mom, and he worked full time, but I'm the one who took care of the money and bill paying. It was kinda funny when we divorced cause he didn't have a clue, lol. So, in reality I think it's better if it is shared, because then if something happens to one or the other, at least both know what bills there are and how to handle things.

I do all they bills my hubby is very bad at the check book once i went on vaction for a week and even left him a detailed list on what needed done and my poor sweet heart still missed it up. but at least he tried

He controls the money but that's mainly because I'm horrible with math. But it's so annoying. So becuase I feel like there's never any money for me to go and do what I want to do that is why I'm on here trying to make something.