A man should have good temper
By quentina
@quentina (109)
China
December 5, 2007 8:32pm CST
To my honest,I left my previous boyfriend due to his bad temper.Eventually i did't wish to put up with him any more and decided to leave him.I never regret it.In fact,he very love me.But he was very easy to angry with me..even though some trifles such as a wrong saying when we have a conversation,some uncarefully actions...sometimes he burst into his temper to me,even beat me.then i was crying sadly.I couldn't think about clearly that why he so mind these trifles and never try to tolerate me..I couldn't do everything well and never make no mistakes..I am not perfect..I ever tried to give him more chances to change his bad temper..but after several times i got a conclusion that he couldn't do it thoroughly..It's very hard to change someone's characteristic.Those days we often quarreled with each other.I felt much relax when i ended up our relation.but sitll be sad.after all we had two years' feeling.
So I think good temper is very important to a man especially who should be good to his girlfriend or wife.
Now i hated the bad temper man and wish that i can find a kindly man accompaning with me in my latter lifetime.
4 responses
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
Hey do not ever let other people even boy friends beat you. The fact that he does something like that he is never worth to be with. Anyways, I guess, in a relationship we all must have this certain length of patience. Not just the guy should have a good temper but also the girl.
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@quentina (109)
• China
6 Dec 07
In fact,My good friend adviced me to leave him when he unleashed his temper to me first.but I forgived him and believed that this situation wouldn't be showed next time.but i was disappoint to him..
I don't want to say more about his bad temper..actually he is never worth to be with..
I hope we have more patiences and tolerances in life..
we try best to not to blame someone and complain something.
You know when you mislead someone or you extremly mind some trifles,thus your actions will make another person sad and bring them more pressures,depression.
Let us try our best to tolerant someone.
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@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
10 Dec 07
I told my husband back when I told him in the beginning of our marriage if you ever hit me i am leaving. I won't ever deal or forgive a person for hitting me. I used to know someone who her husband would hit her, and she left that room with a black eye. He says she egged me on, and I lost it. So i remember that story to remind myself hits is not ever right and I nor other women should put up with it and its never our fault.
@mary855230 (121)
• China
6 Dec 07
you are right , my darling
the temper is very important , the man who often burst into temper to his wife , even beat is not a gental man . i agree with u . but i want to say: " dont worry , the price is coming to u ."
good luck , my dear friend .
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
6 Dec 07
When you say man, I hope it includes woman too. Yes temper is most valuable thing, so one should keep that with them only, not to unleash it. You are right. When you said good temper, who is going to decide what si good and what is bad temper. Because people are not able to point out good and bad tempers, the so called bad and undesirable tempers are just unleashed.
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@quentina (109)
• China
6 Dec 07
dear.ssh123.do you believe that the temper is natural?or May be related to growing circumstance.To me,I hardly angried with someone and complained something.On the contray,I can tolarate and understand others.but my GF is so..
May be there are some differeces between men and women in our country's culture-The men should give more concerning and love to women.should have more tolerances in life..after all,the women belongs to the poor society group.They need to be protected and took good care.
so we should ignore some unhappy trifles in life and don't let trifles influence our good mood.
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@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
10 Dec 07
I agree with you totally. I was married to a man years ago that couldn't control his temper, he always said it was my fault he got mad. I said lets work on this. I asked him what can I do different? That question didn't help me at all. we just fighted everyday about everything so he finally divorced me. I tryed to divorce him and he started crying and saying how much he loved me. So I said ok we can try to fix things. That didn't work, things just got worse. I don't understand men at all. Why do they get to cry and say I love you don't leave me. but us women when we try that it don't work. they say no I want a divorce. I've had 2 dumb divorces and now I am staying singel and keeping my time busy with my son, life and the internet and I don't get lonely anymore.
