How do you feel when you stand by your old familymembers when the end is coming?
By anetteh
@anetteh (3590)
Sweden
December 7, 2007 12:14pm CST
Today me and my two other sisters went to the hospital. My grandfather over 90 years have slipped two times and broken his leg on two places. He was in a bad way, I believe he will not last long. He had become smaller and thinly so he had no healing strength left. While we were there I felt it was good I have been there. My grandmother past away so quickly that we had no time to see her before she went her way. I work with at a home for people like my grandfather so I do not feel bad that he is going to past away, however, it is bad for the closest d.v.s, the children, my father and his sister and brothers. That is what I believe is the most hardest to deal with. How do you feel about it, How do you deal with the other family members, they who will not be able to take this. Just some thoughts I had while I was seeing my old grandfather in the end of his day´s.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
7 Dec 07
I think it is a huge honour to be with someone as they leave us, I believe in the bright light and that when someone passes away loved ones come to guide them and to be with someone at this time, sharing that white light does something to you, I was lucky enough to be with and hold the two very special men in my life, my dad and my special friend and I think it was something unexplainable and as I sad an honour, even though painful....
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
7 Dec 07
Yes, it is. I am o a daily bases, working with this almost every day. The best we can do is to give the last days as comfortable as possible. have the family's wishes been done.
We prepare them when the family comes with the best clothes, with a light and the bible. We try to make this as comfortable as we can for the family. It is a honour to have been there and help them.
@froggylovesu (173)
• United States
7 Dec 07
With passing of my dad this past September . Even though there was no close relationship between us due to alochol.
At the end made peace with the Lord so peacefully passed away.Gave me great peace with the passing of my father .
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
8 Dec 07
at a time like this it is god to be with them if ya can.
and ya can set around just looking or ya can do something like talking about the person and what a good life they had bring up some of the funny side of things he did and what you enjoyed about them.
When My hubby was about to pas we played all his favorite song ( yes right there in the hospital) and talked to him oh he didnt answer for he was in a coma but I do beloeive he heard every thing as one song played his leg started to keep time with it.
Its hard very hard to watch a loved one slip away and ya want to keep them here , but I guess ya have to let them go so they no longer are in pain.
adn beleive they are going to another place where he will be with loved ones that have gone before .
LIke right now I do beleive on Friday nights hubby and one of the sisters with him are up there dancing and and having a party like they used to here.
