my daughter broke my heart
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
December 8, 2007 8:32am CST
at my daughter's school the bigger kids came to help the little kids do their christmas list and then they went to mail them. i asked her what she asked for and she said a chair and a bed. i said you didn't ask for any toys? she said no just a bed and chair. i asked why. she replied so we can have a new bed here so my dad can move in and we can be like everyone else. well that just broke my heart. i had to sit her down to explain how lucky she was to have two loving homes and twice the stuff and how it was like a little vacation when she went to visit her dad every second weekend. she was happy after the talk but i feel terrible. poor thing.she's 4 just in case anyone is wondering
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11 responses
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
8 Dec 07
Sometimes the things kids say amaze me. Would you ever have thought that she was thinking about those things? To be thinking that her Dad would need a bed so he can live there. She sounds like an adorable little girl.
@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
8 Dec 07
it came as a huge surprise to me. she had never mentioned anything about it before. it's been this way since she was 6 months old so i thought she's ok with the way things were cause that's all she's known.
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@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
9 Dec 07
That breaks my heart reading that. I think some kids just understand certain things better. And she probably realizes her friends have bother their parents at home. Thats probably where some of it came from. At least she was happy after your talk. I know that doesnt make you feel any better. I hope you and your daughter have a great christmas.
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
9 Dec 07
Awww poor girl. You know it's nuts how we don't realise they notice more than we think at times. I hope she's doing better now.
Hugs
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@stacy624 (2776)
• Canada
8 Dec 07
I know what you are going through, Its hard but you sitting and explaining the way you did is such a great way. When my Ex husband seperated it was the hardest thing on the kids and even after 7 years its still hurtful for them. But is the best im sure on your end as well as mine that we are not with the Ex's. Your little girl has an Awesome mommy and with time it should get easier.
Best wishes.
Stacy
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@mermaid911 (798)
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
That's really heart breaking. I guess shes in the stage of yearning for a dad or a father figure. You could probably do something about it. Poor girl.
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@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Its amazing what little ones keep inside. Things that we would never think they where thinking that just come out at random times. The best thing is to let her know that she is loved no matter what the situation, and i think you having a talk with her expressed that. I hope you have a wonderful holiday.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Dec 07
It is hard for kids, especially when their friends parents are together. I am sure your explanation helped, but it will come up again. I would just keep telling her the same thing. I bet it really tore at your heart strings. I cannot believe that she came up with that solution. Smart girl.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
11 Dec 07
What a sweetie she must be to think like that. Maybe she needs to see her Dad a little bit more often.
My son was 7, when my ex and I split up and he thought the holidays were great, we went to visit family at Thanksgiving, where he got many Christmas presents, then he came back had CHristmas with me, then his father and often times other families that we would visit. He loved seeing the people and having the celebrations and getting the gifts.
I think you did a great job explaining the situation to her and I hope she feels better now.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 07
Don't feel bad.Children are smart and they exactly know the situation as it is.
I can imagine that this brakes your heart,but don't worry things will be okey.
I think you did a great job by telling her about two loving homes.
@aceballos (99)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Oh my I feel for you. My four year old asks for his daddy all day long while he is at work; I can only imagine how it is on your daugther. I was raised with both my parents, in fact they just celebrated thier 54th wedding anniversay and so I can't imagine having to go through that. I had friends though that would miss out on a lot. It seemed like the parents used the child as a bargaining tool. I even had one friend who missed our senior prom because it was dads weekend and he demanded she be there.
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
8 Dec 07
Oh I just wish I could give her a hug right now. That child is one smart kid to come up with such things. My son asked for toy LOTS OF BIG TOY not that he will get it mind you :))). She abviusly had noticed how other people live and probably said to her self that he does not live with you because he does not have a bed to sleep in and only if he had things would be different.
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