What kind of person are you?
By ChaJudLeoBit
@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
United States
December 8, 2007 6:45pm CST
There's that saying that I always thought was neat about the kind of person you can choose to be. You can be a carrot, and egg, or a coffee bean. Think of boiling water as the hardship or a bad situation. The carrot responds to the boiling water by becoming soft and limp. Like his spirit is broken. The egg responds by becoming hardened, like someone who is uncaring and hard inside and out. But the coffee bean changes the situation and makes it better, instead of letting the situation get him down or affect him negatively. He uses it to make something positive in the end that is better for both.
So what kind of person are you??
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8 responses
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I would have to say I used to be the egg, I let certain situations harden me, but after my divorce, being on my own for a year and then meeting a wonderful man that can turn the worst day into a good one, I'd have to say I've become more like the coffee bean. I was never like the carrot though. But I have learned to ask myself one question when there is a negative situation and I start to get upset by it, will this really make a difference tomorrow, next week, next year..... I've learned from this wonderful man in my life, don't sweat the small stuff.
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I'm glad things worked out for you. I sometimes feel that I am part egg, part carrot. After my husband left me, my whole world crumbled. I didn't realize how much of my self worth was wrapped up in him, and how my world revolved around him. I was very much a carrot for such a long time, but I have a lot of bitterness inside me that I'm still struggling with, which makes me egg-ish. So I don't know. I guess I'm in a transitional state right now.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
9 Dec 07
I suppose out of these options I would have to say I'm a coffee bean. I took a really bad history and turned it into a pretty okay present. However... the coffee that I created is too strong for most people to drink I think. My approach to life is not cold or uncaring or hard, but it is most definitely a little bitter sometimes. I like the word "bittersweet" far too much. I am kind, I am caring, and I will give my life to protect others... but the hurt and the darkness inside me still exist, and sometimes come to the forefront.
A very good friend and I were talking about innocence one day... and I was having a hard time coming up with any way in which I was innocent. He said that I am in that I still hope and trust, and I believe him, because he knows me better than I know myself sometimes. So in that way I am a coffee bean. :P
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
29 Apr 08
I really like your response. Trying to evaluate myself is hard. I had mentioned in my previous comment about my bitterness, so I like the analogy about strong bitter coffee. I don't feel I've made it to the coffee stage yet, though.
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@magilives (261)
• Australia
10 Dec 07
I am more like custard... I start off runny (tears) then boil like mad, then I thicken and end up cool and smooth.
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Very well said. Maybe I can use this to re-evaluate myself. Some times it's hard to fit into one specific mold.
Thanks
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@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
I'm a coffee-egg.
I have a reasonably good balance of the two, but unfortunately there are times when I let myself harden before I see the good, or make the good in the situation.
I have also never been the carrot, which is not to say that I haven't let myself down, or been "weak", such as when I self-harmed.
I will continue to live my life in the most coffee-like ways possible.
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@Greentea82 (43)
• China
9 Dec 07
i always want to become coffee bean ,i wound to changes the situation,but i can't do that,the large situation is so hardened,u can't changes by urself.and i must to become eggs.uncaring and hard with out,and i have so soft heart inside,so i think i was eggs&carrot in myself.
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@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Finally someone who admits to being carrot-like. I have always been a carrot, I think now, these last few years, I may be more egg... but then again, I don't know. Maybe I'm still a carrot.
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@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
I would have to say I am a coffee bean. I don't let the world get to me and I try to leave a positive touch where ever I go.
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@prncesfrmheaven (452)
• United States
11 Apr 09
Woohooo I want to be the coffee bean...LOL I actually think I have went through every single stage. I went through the egg phase after my divorce as well. I just didn't care and everything that he had done to me I was going to do to everyone else. I think I still have moments when I am the carrot just because it's easier sometimes to let others have their way. But for the most part I try to be the bean and change something if I don't like it.
