Why do we hurt those we love the most?

Yes, that's very true. I think about that sometimes, too. I think it probably happens because we get so comfortable with the people we love and then we stop worrying about how we look in front of them. It seems like people are usually the most polite to people they don't know very well cause they don't want to make a bad impression. I know sometimes I end up taking stuff out on my husband cause I know that he loves me anyway, even when I mess up, so then I take it for granted occasionally when I've had a bad day or something. Of course, I always feel awful afterward! I guess maybe just taking a few moments alone to cool down might help to prevent some of it.

It's so true, Pose. I don't know how we can change it, I think we shouls try and think twice before "exploding" and taking it out on the people we love. and if we did, and then realise that it was only because of external reasons, just learn to say I'm sorry. =)

I agree this happens and it should not. My husband got really angry with me until it blew up in his face. I literally got sick. I got a bad case of shingles that lasted to weeks. So now he tries to get me to change in a nicer way and he also finds that now without the fear of shaking in my boots, and him being more polite, it is easier for me to change. So to not hurt someone, you first have to see if there are any negative results of you blowing up and think what would happen if that person wound up in hospital with cancer or like me, got rashes all over her body and then be nicer.

Truer words could not be spoken. My hubby sees the worst in me and just lets it go by as he knows I am just venting. I in turn listen while he vents then we laugh and move on. I think without people that will listen to us we would go insane.

Hi Pose123! To be honest with you, my family is my weakness. I love them so much and I have done everything I know I can for them. There are times that I get hurt with their stubborn ways and at the same time when I snapped at them for some reasons which i would not justify, I know I hurt them too. After a few minutes of my being a little crazy, I usually say sorry to them. I really don't get mad or stay mad at my family, I can only be happy when I see them smile that is why it hurts so much when one is lost or is sick or feeling sad.There are only few instances i snapped at the younger members of my family. I know I still have so much to do for them especially for my brother who is suffering physically and emotionally for a long time now. I can always say no to other people and it hurts me if i say no to my family. Believe it or not, but I am more polite and kind to my family than other people and at the same time I know I still do hurt and take my family for granted. Sigh! Confused? me too..hehe..All I can say is that I love them very much that I will do everything I can for them, even making sacrifices for them. But sometimes, I know it is not enough because I know that they still hurt and I can not do anything about it except to pray. Take care my friend and have a nice day!

Yeah! Pose i am very agree with you! I am just the person like you said. i'd like to take my chagrin out on my sister and bf. so she/he always said why not treat us as your normal friend or even a stranger? To be honest, everytime i heard they said like this, i felt regretful, i didn't know why i save my darker side for them so often and felt in the nature of things. i want to change and try my best to do so, we know we love each other more the any body, and i believe it is not the quite way to express my feeling. Now i know i love them more and more, so i must treat my elder sister and bf just in the way they treat me.

no I use Pinky for that I figured it out last night she is really a man AND is the devil too

Well, I think is because we are afraid to loose our friends if we act like jerks ,but we know that our family is always going to love us no matter what.

Complaining to a loved one isn't hurtful... getting angry at them because you're angry about somthing else is, though. Hun and I agreed a lo-o-ong time ago to get mad at the problem, not each other... that way, we can fix it together. Its a method that has worked well these 44 years... we don't fight! EVER! Discuss, debate, slam a door, okay... but its over that quick. You know, you got me thinking...I try to treat everyone like family... I'm not sure I'm doing them any favors!LOL!

well it is not like that we hurt somebody intentional. people who are close to us we expect more out of them so we assume some time about them and that prove to be wrong sometime so if we have some concern we should always share without assuming others prospective and if we do some mistake we should be always ready to apologize.