Why don't my girlfriend wanna go to my hometown ?
By nanguofong
@nanguofong (726)
China
December 8, 2007 8:58pm CST
My girlfried really don't wanna go to my hometown and visit my relations!
We are chinese, according to the local consuetude, the young lady and boy must go to each other's hometown and visit the parent before the marriage.
She love me very much, so I do. We have bought a new house and have decidede to celebrate a wedding next year. However, she really don't wanna go to my hometown and visit my relations. IS the hardest question to answer "why" for herself, I was so worry.
What could I do ?
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@maggiemoon (487)
• China
9 Dec 07
That's a problem.According to your saying I know that's not a game for love but true love for marriage.To visit your hometown will make your marriage stable,I think.She wants the answer "why" for herself,but that's local consuetude,that's not only her business,it's an important thing for you,your family,her,and her family.So answer is not a must,What you need to do is not considering answers but make her know you and your parents need her and her visit .Then if she love you she will concede.
@nanguofong (726)
• China
9 Dec 07
Yesterday, I saw a British women's discussion. She said she really don't wanna go to her husband's country and visit the relations. She also didn't known "why".
So, I thought it was maybe the common of women. Have her sickened "the illness before marriage" ?
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@maggiemoon (487)
• China
13 Dec 07
Thank you for your rating me best response and Happy Christmas!
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
13 Dec 07
The only reason that I can think of is that she's afraid that they won't approve of her. Her fears are probably unfounded, but that don't help her to not be scared. Just keep bringing it up every now and then and when you do, reassure her that everything would be fine if she were to go and maybe eventually she will go. I wish you the very best of luck. Take care.
@nanguofong (726)
• China
14 Dec 07
Thank you very much for giving me your advice. you're right "her fears are unfounded, but that don't help her". I do my best to tried to reassure her that everything would be fine. I indeed let her meet my father and sister in the city where we are living. Even now, she is hesitating.
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@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
9 Dec 07
that sounds like a useful and important tradition
yeah, if she won't go meet your parents then maybe she is bad and you should call off the wedding
@nanguofong (726)
• China
9 Dec 07
She is a good and virtuous girl. We have loved in four years. She went with me four yeas, and live through my worst life. She offered me her best days, her family conditions was better than mine, but she don't dislike and avoid me. She love me, help me and inspirit me.
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