should i try more
By cinthita
@cinthita (11)
Peru
December 9, 2007 12:33am CST
i had a realtionship with a guy who lives in usa i met him online.. he came to my country a ocuple of times .. the lasttime was days ago and he wanted to ask me to marry him, i love him but i made many bad things to him, i was so afradi to lose him, he broke uop with me when he was here we had a horrible fight one night he went out alone without me and i went out with friends(girls) and .. i saw him with 3 girls wel he did nto do anythign cause int he end he stayed with me.. sayign that we cant be toegther even if he loves me, i said to him really bad things liek i wanted to be with other person who loves me more thisn liek that, i love him so much.. we had plans to go to his country to meet his family, i dunno if i shoukld go to show him how much i love him.. what can i do?????????
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11 responses
@garnet80 (349)
• Australia
10 Dec 07
If you love him tell him how you feel. If you don't it might be too late to change things. I question to you though is are you scared? It can be scary being in a relationship especially when the other person is from another country because you then have to ask yourself where will you both live, what country. It's also scary meeting parents. Can you imagine your life without him in it? If you can't then give the relationship another go if that is what feels right to you.
I wish you all the best with your relationship. Love is hard to find and once you find it reach out with both hands and grab it and don't let go. If a love is worth fighting for then fight with everything you have got.
@cinthita (11)
• Peru
10 Dec 07
thanks!! im so afraid to go to serbia and find a NO like an answer... i mean i love him so much OK i made many mistakes but why he broke up with me now? when he came to ask me to marry him.. when i wanted to go to new york living my family here my country.. i gave all my heart to him.. i knwo that sometimes im not the perfect gf.. but can u imagine how hard was to hear fromm him things like" cinthia sorry i wotn go back with u even if i love u with all my heart this time i will think with the head not with the heart we cant have a family anymore" it hurt to much.. OK if i go to serbia and if he does not want me there.. what i will do?? im so afraid to see or hear soemthign that can hurt me..
I WILL GO TO NEW YORK EVEN IF HE DOES NOT WQANT TO GO BACK WITH ME.. CAUSE FOR ME HE WILL ALWASY WILL BE THE MAN OF MY LIFE.. WE WERE TRYING TO HAVE BABIES.. AND NOWWWW EVERYTHIGN CHANGED.. IS SO HARD.. :( SHOULD I GO TO SERBIA? WHAT WILL U DO IF U WERE ME???? I LOVE U PLZ HELP ME NOT TO LOOSE HIM.. OR IF U THINKT HAT I LOST HIM ALREADY IS BETTER YTO KNWO THAT NOW...:(
@garnet80 (349)
• Australia
10 Dec 07
To be honest I don't know what I would do. I guess the best way would be to follow your heart. You both need to sit down and have a talk about what you both want and what the future holds. To be talking baby talk he must really want to be with you. But if he really doesn't want the relationship anymore then ask him why. Is he too like you feeling scared?
@nkhanna (922)
• India
10 Dec 07
hi cinthia.i really dont understand as to why you spoke bad things to him.however if you really love him then my honest suggestion to you is that you talk to him first and let him know your feelings.listen to his true confession as well in regards to you and if you both think that you are really made for each other,then go ahead in this relationship.
@cinthita (11)
• Peru
10 Dec 07
i knw is bad to say bad things to hurt him.... but i dunno what happened...... i really love him.. but the problem is that he does not think that i really love him.. i dotn want to call him cause this things we cant talk by phone its better to do it face to face for that reason i was thinking to go to serbian in the same date that he iwll go to visit his family... i talked with his family and they are telling me to go there cause he loves me and we will fidn s solution there... but im afraid that it wont work out.. he did not call em for 3 days... mayeb he will call me this week.... i dunno if he does not.. i want to go to serbia to see him and talk with him and even if i do that he does not want to be with me.. i will leave him........ its so hard to find the best solution.. mye heart say that i should go a fight for it.. but my head is asking if it really will work out!!!!!!!
@royanne (372)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
i think you should let him know how much you love him because "to let true love remain unspoken is the easiest way to a heavy heart."
So, tell him how you feel about him cause you know deep down that you love him too. so, why hesitate? You'll miss half of your life wonderin' what might have been.
take up the courage and tell him!
there's nothing to lose but there's something you can gain afterwards. happiness-- that is!
^_^
Best of luck to you!
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
Hi cinthita, You are very young, how old is your boyfriend? I believe that you have lots of time before you need to decide on marriage. First you must forgive each other and yourself. Then just start over, take some time to get to know each other better. Go to his country and meet his family. Has he met your family by the way? Take some time and decide which country you want to live in. If you really love each other, you can take your time, and your marriage will have a better chance of lasting a lifetime. I hope that things work out right for you. Blessings.
@cinthita (11)
• Peru
10 Dec 07
hes 30 years old.. i made already my desicion to live and study in usa .. i have the suppor of my family cause the met him already and they think that hes a great guy...... for that reaosn to show him that i wotn let him cause i will go to serbia ( his country) but im not 100% sure.. im afraid.. to get hurt there.-.-.. i dont know the lenguage , i dont knwo anyone there just his family who will eb with me.. i know that they want that we be together..
i love him and i really wanted to have a family with him.. i still want.. even if he is not sure .. i mean he loves me and he said that even 3 days ago when was the last tiem that he called me.. he di dnoit call me since that day...... i dont want to call him cause he will thinkt hat im chasing him.. i dotn want to push him .. i dunno if its better to go to his country without say anythign to him liek a surprise.. or called him but if i call him he will say" dont go"
thanks
@neetipari (49)
•
9 Dec 07
yup i feel honey that you were hasty little bit and more over if you are feeling that you were little harsh to him so go and apologize to him dont delay it because true love comes once in life and it is hard to hold if you will be arrogant or expect always from the other person.sometimes you shold alos initiate from your side. it always make you feel happy that you love him and the other person also realise it equally
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
If yu love him you have to go talk to him. You have to calm yourself down so you can think straight and just say you know what I messed up by saying these things to you and can you forgive me. You guys are going to have to work on your communication skills becuase walking out on eachother and saying really hurtfull things aren't going to be good in a mariage. So just talk to him about maybe taking some sort of class where you guys could handle problems with more finesse than what just happend. And remember to never EVER EVER say anything when you are this mad again. Ok
@cinthita (11)
• Peru
9 Dec 07
thank u so much guys!!!!!! but what i dont know if its a good idea to go to his country i mean his family todl me to go cause he loves me and bla bla... he lives in new york but he will go to serbia the end of next month im looking my ticket to go there in the same date.. im afraid that he will get mad cause now hes reallñy mad..... i love him that much that im afraid to loose him...
now when i lost him is when i see how much i care about him.. its a long way from peru to serbia but i want to try this last time cause he needs to know how much i love him.. but what if he still mad even if i go?????
@bluetie123 (79)
• India
9 Dec 07
If u love him enquired about him talk with ur and his parents or gaurdians and then be commited with him.If all are positive just walk along him to marry and enjoy the life.
@fanji008 (775)
• China
9 Dec 07
Hi,there! I do think you'd better have a very open talk with him.Since he loves and you love him very much too,why let the misunderstanding stand between you guys? Why not tell everything and communicate with each other about all those that happened? I think you should go to show him your true feelings.Meet sb that you love and he loves you too is not that easy.It's worth cherishing.Don't let it go just because of some misunderstandings.Best wishes for you and him! I hope you'll come to the result that both of you want in your deep hearts:) Have a nice day^_^
@zhaoguoliang (188)
• China
9 Dec 07
if you really love him ,i think you should tell him how much you love him.
@passtravel (66)
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9 Dec 07
i think you should communicate with him about the problems between you two if you love him,then tell him what is your real thought.cherish your love if you regard it is as just the love.
@dmercurious (3)
• Jamaica
9 Dec 07
Look Sweets ! There should always be room to forgive in any relationship thats worth its salt, and space for growth, never the least bad things once said cannot be retrieve they may cause much pain so you both should try to control yourself in the future, but if he really loves you and you love him as you said you do then try again ! True love is hard to find so if what you have feels like it its worth going thousands of mile for !
