what should I do?

China
December 9, 2007 2:00am CST
Who can tell me what should I do? I love a girl,of cause very beautful in my eyes.I am a shy boy.Before 3 years,I had found I love her.But at that time,our task is study,and only study.I hit my love in my heart.Now,we are all be admitted to calleges.Three months ago,I told her I love her.But she said she was not fit me.I asked why.She said she already had boyfriend.At that moment ,I really want to cry! After that,I do my best to forget her or regard her as my sister,but I can not.I think no one can love her more deeply than me.In a ward ,I can not forget her simle. Someone had said that if you really love her/him,you only hope she/he can happiness no matter what decidition she/he does. Should I bless her happiness only ?
10 responses
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
If I were you, I would just forget her as of the moment, maybe she is not meant to be yours, who knows you deserve someone better, there might be someone whom God has reserved for you, maybe you just have to open your eyes and focus your attention to other things and you'll get over it. If God wants her for you, in time, you might be able to see each other together. There are so many women in this world and you should be happy for her, who knows, you might be able to find your happiness too with another woman.
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• China
9 Dec 07
thanks very much.i will do my best to forget her ,and to find my own happiness.
@seared (261)
• China
9 Dec 07
I am really sorry to hear that!But I think you should let her go. If you really love her,you should hope her happy!and how do you know no one can love her more deeply than you? naybe she is really happy with her boyfriend. things will be better.don't worry about it too much
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• China
9 Dec 07
Maybe you are right.I do not know how deeply other boy love her,but I can do anything for her I think.I can not forget her till now.maybe i should let her go,i think i will wait for her till she find a boy who really can give her family and happiness!what about your love story?could you tell me your story?
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
Her happiness? I think you should consider your welfare also. It is not always her happiness that matters no matter how much you love her or him.
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
If you can wait, well, just wait. But if I were you I will go to her and tell her that I will wait. If she tells me not to wait then that means bye-bye forever.
• China
10 Dec 07
yeah.i think i should tell her i will wait for her.thanks.
• China
10 Dec 07
maybe after some years she will find i am the best.but now she think her boyfriend is the best,what should i do now?
• China
10 Dec 07
I advise you strive for her love, do your best. Love is self-serving, don't lose. what you said above were pretext,impuissant action. Your love is actual, why don't you try to come true hand and foot. Continue attempt,don't leave behind regret.if you think you can, you can!
• China
10 Dec 07
thanks.i will try my best to get her heart back.but if she do not want to back,i will bless her.i hope the one who get hurt is not her but me.
10 Dec 07
Sometimes its best to let the ones you feel most attached to move on, I Liked a girl for a very long time, couldnt think of anything else, would see her every week and have the same strong feelings, but she moved away and over time I realised there were others out ther, not the same as the girl I liked but different in a nice way. Everyone has nice qualities some nicer than others you just have to search for them!
• China
10 Dec 07
thinks,i will cheer myself up as quick as i can.
@maxcheng (33)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
Dude, if you really like her, and care for her, respect her decision. If she truly feels that she does not share the same feelings that you do that your futile attempts at sharing something with her are hopeless, and a waste of time and energy by yourself. Keep on being her friend. She may come around and learn to enjoy your company, and possibly want more from you than friendship.
• China
10 Dec 07
thanks.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I know you will hate my answer, but you are young, and there will be many more girls in your life. You are just a bit younger then my son, and he falls in love and gets his heartbroken by girls who don't appreciate him and I will tell you what I told him just about 2 months ago. Someday, you will meet a girl, who you will love and will love you back, she will appreciate your good qualities and your not so good characteristics. She will appreciate the fact that you can cook for her and can fix her car, though you may not be able to afford to take her out for an expensive dinner or buy her a new car. She will love or at least tolerate your sense of humor and your ability to talk with anyone. Some day, you will find and meet this very lucky girl. Just stop looking so hard and let it happen. Don't look back, forget the past. And be more careful who you give your heart to. THis is not what I told my son word-for-word, but it is real close. Wish her happiness and go on with your life. Better days will come.
• China
10 Dec 07
thanks.i will do my best to forget her,or just be her best friend.i am confident to find a girl who really fit me.how about your son now?
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
For now you should forget about courting her. But try to maintain your friendship. Do keep in touch. Who knows, maybe some day they'll break up. Then you'll get another chance. In the meantime, focus on being the best man you can be. There are plenty of girls out there.
• China
10 Dec 07
yes.i am going to wait for her several years,and at the same i will try my best to being a best man.no matter who she choose ,i will bless her happiness.
• Australia
10 Dec 07
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. If she loves her boyfriend, you should be happy for her and let her go. Thinking about her all the time will make the situation more painful for you. I'm sure you'll find the right girl for you soon!
• China
10 Dec 07
thanks.it is hard to say whether i can forget her,but i will try my best to.
• China
9 Dec 07
hi ,there . if you love here , you should tell her. maybe she also love you after these year . if she know that you still love her after so many year , she will be affected ,i think . go ahead , good luck .
• China
9 Dec 07
Thanks!I have said I already tell her i love her,she only answer she does not fit me.but,I am gong to wait for her several years,4years or 10years,till she really find a boy who really love her.