importance of parents - no more important

Hi apsara! I agree with you there. I have seen several parents abandoned or ignored by their own sons/daughters and it is very unfortunate. As for me my mother is no more and I do not ignore my father. I do not need to financially support him but i ensure that i visit him often or talk to him atleast once in a week.

It is natural for children to want to break away and become independent as they grow up. It is not something they should have to apologize for. As parents, we need to allow them to do that, a little at a time, and teach them what they need to know to make it without us. It is difficult to do, but we have to remember that we are still and always will be a big part of their lives, whether they want to admit it or even know it.

Yes, I fully agree with you views and endorse them. When we became parents, then only we realised that how much difficulty our parents would have taken to bring us up. While brining up our own children, we face difficult and tricky situations everyday and I personally feel to bring a child is the most difficult job in one's life. I agree that today's generation is little bit different. The amount of respect and care which we provided to our parents or are providing to our parents, may not be provided by the next generation (i.e. our own children). But cannot help it, I think it is an order of the day.

yea !I also saw many children who hate their parents !!that not good to do that!! its nice topic !! you disclosed here publicly ,now some body may realize if they are doing the same and luckily come across this topic!!!but me really close too parents!!!!! yea if somebody is saying sorry to his old parents its very very late!!

Hi apsara60, Its realy painful to see that parents are ignored and childrens doesnot take care of their needs. Infact parents does not need any thing from childrens. They needs some attention and very little time to spend with their childrens. It is very shameful that a children doesnot give importance to parents , who might have spend whole night without sleeping when their baby gets some problem and through out their life they always pray and do best for their child.

Parents are always our best friends-they are our home,our oasis at time we have no one to trn to.All will leave you at your worst, but ot them who nurtured you

I am a parent apsara60 and sometimes I sit in deep thoughts pondering about what you raise in this post. There can not be any deeper pain than coming to discover your kids consider your irrelevant as their parent! My kids are very fond of me, but you cannever tell what they be in their late teens. I have seen parents literally being clobered by their own children for family resources-it makes the whole idea of having children self defeating!

i am not a parent but i love my parents very much and i'm sure most of us do.parents are the reason of our existence and whtever we are today and i will try my best to take care of my parents when they grow old or whenever they need me.i think most of the children want to take care of their parents too,but due to their work and in order to earn their livelihood,they do not find enough time to spend with their parents.this is one of the few important reasons why i feel joint family is better than single family

Yeah, it does hurt. I'm raised with my father and mother always with me and the parents presence is of very great help especially if you need support. I don't think that the children do not need parents.

hmm yeah perhaps it's true, children nowadays don't care much about their parents? i'm not sure..depends on the individual i guess. some just choose not to show, but deep down they do care. i do notice that some people don't spend much time with their parents anymore, as we grow older our priority and interests changes. we prefer our friends and lovers as opposed to our parents. we should try to spend as much time possible with our parents, bring them out etc..cherish every moment we can before it's too late. :)

It a very natural process. Our job as parents is to raise our children to be independent from us. It is as a parent very emotional when your child grows to "need" you less and less. How cool we think it would be if we could keep them our little babies forever. Then on the flip side, look at all the kids whose parents have somehow managed to do just that. Look at all the 26 year olds that still live at home and depend on mom and dad . it is pathetic. These kids have no survival skills at all. ya, it may be hurtful a bit when your child breaks away but in the end, you are still close...closer than before. You are doing a grave injustice to your child if you do not push them to be independent of you regardless of how much it hurts. You will not always be around for them.

I also saw that scenario apsara. There are a lot of children in this new generation who find their parents less important especially when they become older already. For me, asking for a space or sort of independence from their parents is okay but at least they should spare some time no amidst of their busy schedule and spend it with them. At least they should treat them nice as well, call them from time to time to check their whereabouts. In that way, they will still have their independence without letting their parents feel they are neglected. As for me, my parents are always important to me. Right now, I am half world away from them because they are in the Philippines and I am in the US but it didn't stop me from continuing my communication with them. I call them 2-3 times a week, text them as much as I can everyday just for me to get updated with their lives there. In short, I and my husband are always there for them and in return they are always there for us too. I maintain the same relationship with my in-laws.... I hope someday, when I have a child already, they would give us importance and treat us nicely like how we treated our parents right now. I strongly believe in KARMA that's why I am hoping that my children, if I will have, will do the same to me and hubby.

wel its quite sad tht people feel tht way bt i feel u jst cant push da decision in each case without knowng da whole situation,sumtimes parents jst dnt understand,dey shud accept da changes....now tht does nt at all mean tht m a anto-parent guy,m a loving baccha of my parents....but yaa it really hurts sumtimes whn people go to da limits...

Actually, I think it is very important to treat our parents well no matter we are young or old. We should thank our parents for what they do for us. We should be a good daughter.

If well guided by the parents and not over pampered with money and a soft life, children will always grow up knowing their parents, problem is, life is fast changing, in the West world, you as a parent can be taken to court for using the stick on the kids-they grow knowng no authority-Parents should not abdicate their parental responsibiities little misguided kids, lest they grow knowing non of their parents!

i am a parent myself, i have two babies and to me they are my world, they are my source of strength and courage, in short they are my life....when i was growing up i learned to be independent at a very young age because my parents were not always there, when i became a parent my self i try to make them feel loved and wanted always...i think it will still be very long before my kids get rid of me but now im still contented.

I Think it depends on how parents are to their children. We always try to blame it on the children but their are cases when parents are trying to get rid of their children or haven't give them any love. So ofcourse there are cases when children hurt their parents and want to get rid of them and those are not nice children and i would be hurt if i tried everything to give my children all the love they need and they want to get rid of me.But if it's my own fault that my children wants to get rid of me because i haven't treat them right and didn't give enough love to them they have all the right to ignore me and stuff. So i think it's good to know the two sides of the stories.Don't buy everything parents say or children say there's always one of them lying.

yes apsara,its really sad that nowadays children just ignore their parents like anything and i think this thing will increase day by day since children do what they see their parents doing.some of us dont respect our parents then how can we expect to get love and respect in return.yes but the time one realises thsi fact its too late and then time cannot comes back.well for me this is not the case since i have good relation with my parents as well as my in laws.

It is important for children to grow and breakaway from their parents, but the love that they have for their parents is not supposed to break. That does change into a more mature version unlike the childish love of before. If a child successfully grows to adulthood, then, they will not hurt their parents. They will have learned that we are all human beings subject to human frailities and make mistakes. You cannot hold parental mistakes against your parents because they are human!

yes.now someone do not care thier parents feelings when they become old.