Divorce...Have you ever faced it?

Twice while growing up my mother nearly divorced my father. Had papers drawn up etc. It didn't happen then. Here she is now 60 5 days ago, meeting with lawyer and papers drawn up dad having signed them finally. I wish it had happend sooner. It's hard to know she has been unhappy all this time. Yes when its fianl in a few weeks I will be happy. To have watched one of the people you love most in the world be happy and sad on again, off again for 30+ years is draining.

I've been divorced 2 times in my life and I'm not getting any more divorces. I just married wrong men and not known them long enough. my most recent divorce has broken me. I am still saddened by it even though I tell my family I am over him, I am not and wish I could reconcile our relationship. but I am not the one that abandoned my family . He left me and my son with no home and no money months ago this year. now he wants to be with me, like nothing happened. I don't know how to explain to him how much my family has helped me when he should have been taking care of us. I am still not financially stable. I working on it still. I am so mad at him. I try to tell my self when he decides to call me I will say no more go find you another women to play. but I hope i got the strenght to say that. What I learned from my divorces is learn about the persons life and how does he treat others close to him and date him for a 1 year or more. I hate divorce but sure has taught me a few things about marriage.

Not yet, I hope it will not knock into my doorstep lol.

I was divorced from my first husband after 2 1/2 years together. Thank God we didn't have kids, or I would still be trying to make it work with him, as I have very strong feelings about divorce with children involved. That divorce was the best thing that happened to me, though. I married someone I thought I knew, but everything changed the day we got married. It was terrible. I did get seperated from my second and current husband for a short time about 3 years ago. That was terrible, and it is also where my feelings about divorcing with children came in. Thank God (again) that I did have children in this relationship. Through dropping off and picking up my kids at my husband's place I got to know him again and see that we had very serious issues that we both needed to work on. A little counseling and a LOT of hard work, and we are very happy together. Each situation is different, but I certainly wouldn't jump into divorce without seriously thinking about it outside of whatever anger or hurt there is. All relationships have problems of some type. Most can be worked out.