Should I date the boss?
By nadine1373
@nadine1373 (244)
Jamaica
August 14, 2006 9:11am CST
He has expressed interest and tried to lock me into the bathroom with him, date him or not?
40 responses
@rladiga00 (1165)
• India
18 Aug 06
In your own interest, do not mix profession with personal affairs particularly in work-place.
@kelvin_agra (29)
• India
18 Aug 06
I think you have a lake of selfconfidence.If you belive on your self everthing is possible for so you can leave the job.
@Osigwe (4)
• Nigeria
17 Aug 06
If your boss is not married and you love him and you are sure he will marry you, then you can ask God for guidance. But PLEASE do not allow him to lay you. Otherwise he will satisfy himself dump you and eventually sack you when he is tired of you. By then you will be repulsive to him and lost your dignity. He will then count you among his numerous conquests. If he sacks you without having laid with you, just place all you hope and trust that God will see you to a better job.
Osigwe
@musikwizard (47)
• Ghana
17 Aug 06
if you go on that way he may eventually rape you. Stop entertaining your current philosophy in the name of "difficult getting jobs"
@Cheesehead06 (219)
• United States
17 Aug 06
NO!!!! DEFINITELY NOT!!!! He tried to lock you in the Bathroom with him???? That is your first red flag. He has basically shown you here that he is a control freak. Any relationship that materializes between you two will be on his terms and he will probably dictate what you wear, what you think, etc. A relationship with him could end up to be an abusive relationship.
From the employment standpoint, dating the boss is not a good idea. Good order and discipline can be compromised when a superior and a subordinate begin a dating relationship. It can also affect morale as the relationship becomes something that other employees can point to when they believe that they are being treated unfairly. Also, what if the relationship fails after a certain point in time??? Would you be able to let it go and resume a normal boss-employee relationship??? Would your boss be able to let it go and treat you the same as the other employees???
What it all boils down to is that you would literally be wearing two hats. Employee by day, boss's girlfriend by night. Do you think you can do this???
@KaHathaway (189)
• United States
17 Aug 06
NOOOO!!! When females cross the line of professionalism it might not hurt the one who actually does it but the next girl in that office is going to have too fight through the steriotype or previous actions. The glass ceiling still exists in some places. You are not giving yourself enough worth and will only be making it easier in his mind to pull crap like this on the next female.
@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
17 Aug 06
this is a clear case of harassment in the workplace. obviously he will try to tease you into dating him and trying to convince you by offering you a better position, more pay, or some other benefit. i'd report the incident to human resources right away.
@noorasie (686)
• Pakistan
17 Aug 06
No, not at all.
Your boss is exploiting his position.
Such people are not fair. He will not stop on only dating.
He would like to go ahead and ahead........
Just stop him here.
Jobs are dificult. Its fact. But who will provide you the guarantee of your present job even if you will date your boss.
If u are interested in him, thats another matter.
Dear Nadine,
Life is so small. Live with dignity.
You are not an item belonging to your boss, whom he would use, when he liked.
You are a human being. You must react like a human being.
If you will encourage your boss with date, he will use this formula to other employee.
So just stop him.
Believe in God. He will secure your job.
@m_shilbhadra (3)
• India
17 Aug 06
How could you think of going on a date with a person who locks you, If he is interested in you he should have a proper way of communicating to you.
Thats between you to decide