The search for love

i dont think you have to search for love, love happened when i wasn't searching when it does happen yes i'd say the three things are right

Girl, just wait for it....There will always be a special someone for you.... God has reasons why these things happen.....And i know that if he is truly meant for you, he will just come.... And if you found him...hold on...and never let him go...there will be signs that he is the one you are long long waiting for....

Well this is something new to me till date I had heard that love is blind and a person falls in love. But searching for love that is I feel not possible.The moment you start searching for it that is brain comes into play then to find someone who is tailormade for our requirement is impossible to find. My personal experience says that a person falls in love when he or she finds something attractive in other person but later it vanishes as we start operating our brains to find a perfect match. That is why every love leads towards pain.

yeah, everybody just say "just wait". But i can't wait. Now i'm 18 and i never hv boyfriend till now, while my friends've got. they say that I'm too picky, but i think it's human, isn't? So i must wait for that perfect guy. Oh My!! But i coulnd't agree more for that perspective, ;) LOL

Yes, for me too, love is really a mystery. I don't know how some people found love just so easily and be happy with it and how it become so elusive for me. At my age, i haven't found yet that someone who will complete me but i'm still hopeful. Though i'm quite not sure what to do anymore because i have heard several contradicting advices on how i'll found it. some say you don't have to look for it because it will just find you at the right time while others say i need to make that move looking for it or i'll miss the last trip. I think there's never a formula so nobody can really tell how. Anyway, when i finally have found it, i'll keep in mind this love quote: Love has its own time, season and reason, you can't ask it to stay, you can embrace it when it's there and be glad that it was once yours. hope you will like it too.

got it can you describe your thoughts with quite some more elaboration

I also agree that you need not search for love. Most times love will find you. Somewhere somebody is made for you. As times goes on you will find the right person. I think we all should not close our hearts and guard them, we should open our heart for everyone and every bit of friendship and love to come. We will get a little bit of love from everyone until we get a good partner who gives all the love we needed. Sometimes we might get hurt in love, but when we find the real love all our pains and worries will vanish. When our hearts are closed we hurt not only ourself, but also others. First we must learn to love ourself. When we love ourself very much we will be able to love others. I think you will soon find love. As someone had said there are plenty of fishes in the pond. There is lots of love in the world.

i think you are mostly right. But when you find it, if you risk all you can be in problem though. I have experienced that too much belief is going to hurt you one day. it happened with me.

i don't know much about this, but even i haven't heard about these three thing! i too have heard of love being blind, and one falling in love. but i disagree with sunita as one shouldn't fall in love but grow in it! according to me love is a feeling shared between two people.after even searching for million of years you find a mr/s. perfect s/he might no be the one for you. Only the one who makes your life complete, is the one for you. i don't tell you to search, i don't tell you to wait, i say you try to love someone who truly loves you.

just have some questions : do we really look or search for love? or we just let it find us? or do we initiate love only to find its way in our hearts and somebody else? do we really look for someone to complete us? should we be complete in ourselves before we look or be found by our love? :-)

No, I don't think it's right. We don't have to risk everything. You need to be sure you have a future with the persson and if you are comfortable in that relationship. Relationships that are not based on friendship and a relationship that makes you suffer will not be a good relationship. It is neither fun nor serious.

When you're not looking for something- that's when it happens. Don't look for love; you'll find it in all the wrong places but it will not be real. Waiting is so much better. I know waiting is a test of patience. How bad do you have the desire to be loved ?

you dont have to seek the love, the loves come when least expect. look at my example: took 4 year looking for the love of my live, and when i tired of looking at least, i heart that a woman love me and i also love them, now we are boyfriends xD